[vagreer10]

My boyfriend and I had sex a few days ago. We used a condom, and I thought I felt pretty dry. It was hard to get him in, but we kept going anyway. I've been having the worst pains since. I can't even move without it hurting down there :[ I just really don't know what to do. I can't go to the doctors because I live with my mom, and she doesn't know my boyfriend and I are having sex. I figured it would just go away within a few days, but it's only gotten worse.
Any ideas or suggestions?
Thanks so much.

[vagreer10]

Could anyone please reply with any ideas? i'm really freaking out now. I looked at it last night, and it looked horrible. like burnt on both sides, and na;iufblahbaf. i'm really scared and it is a constant throbbing pain. PLEASE HELLPPPPP!

[MissLyss]

Don't worry, people will definitely answer you. Sometimes it takes time. But I know how it feels to panic!

So you felt dry -- maybe you weren't aroused/lubricated enough to start having sex yet? You might have gotten teared up a bit. You also might be allergic to the type of condom he used.

Was this your first time?

Also, is there a planned parenthood near you? Maybe they can help! Although sometimes there's a wait. Is there any way you can get to the doctor without your mom knowing?

Would she really freak out if you talked to her about having sex with your boyfriend?

I'm probably not the best person to help, but I'm trying! Other people will definitely answer.

[MrPleazr]

I don't know that I can help, being a guy and all, but if your in this much pain and are this concerned... Tell your mom and go to the doctor, it's not worth your health. Your mom had sex at least once you know...


Worst case, find a walk-in clinic or planned parenthood clinic... Don't risk it...

[vagreer10]

Thanks for the answers.
It wasn't my first time. We've been together for two years, and i would say regularly have sex. while we were having sex, i said i thought i felt dry and that it was hard to get him in, and that maybe he should finger me first, but when he went to do that he was like "You're definitely wet." It looks like to me like the rubber on the condom kind of burned the outer/back part of my vagina. Because when i looked at it, it was like raw skin. and it was like really white in the middle of the sore on both sides. I'm just worried that it'll get infected. I was going to go to planned parenthood today, but i couldn't make it before work. and i was planning on going tomorrow but my dads getting my car fixed so i cant get there. I guess i'll have to wait until thursday and go before work.

i would just tell my mom, but i told her after the first time having sex, and that is not an experience i wanna have again. she thinks we stopped..

[vagreer10]

Oh and also. i definitely wasn't that aroused. I didn't even wanna have sex until after he came. :[

[MrPleazr]

I think it's time for the boyfriend to learn the fine art of FOREPLAY? , that's the fun part...Tell him he's got to learn how to use that thing or keep it in his pants. That's a perfect way to bust a condom also... At least buy some lube...KY Warming Gel, you can buy it almost anywhere...you'll like it...

[vagreer10]

i've suggested lube, and he HATES the idea :[ i don't think he realizes that sex has become worthless for me. I seriously do not feel a thing anymore, unless we do it without a condom, which were really trying to stop doing. It just kinda sucks; i love pleasing him, but two whole years, and not yet once have i even orgasmed. :[

[WildChild]

Are you using BC?
You may be latex sensitive.
If you don't enjoy it, are in pain, not orgasming - what are you training your brain and body about sex?
Can you cum without intercourse?

[vagreer10]

I am not on BC. I used to be, but it was interfering with my meds. I am on prozac and vyvanse, and when my psychiatrist diod a blood test to check that everything was going well, he found out i had high liver enzymes. When i was finally able to tell him that i was on the pill, (because it was the first time my mom wasn't with me) he said that made sense, and that i should stop taking it. i talked with him about my other birth control options, and the only thing that would work is an IUD since any added hormones would mess with my blood again :[

but anyway, Latex has never bothered me before so i don't think it's that.
and i've never gotten myself to cum through masterbation, which i hardly do. I think i've been veryyy close when my by was fingering me, and i was kinda close during sex a few times, but he always cums first, then he's too tired to do anymore.