[YB001]

My boyfriend and I are together for a year and a half. The sex was fabulous when we just got together but for the passed few months my sex drive has died. I'm always making excuses not to do it and understandably, this is frustrating him. I would love to want it but i dont. When we finally get into it i enjoy it but getting into the mood is almost impossible. Any advise would b appreciated!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It's hard for the readers to give you an answer in this regard without further information.,

Why do you feel you don't want sex?


Do you love him, desire him? Are you stressed?

What's making you feel this way do you think at present?

CW

[kmart]

same here...

I am the same age and I'm having the exact same problem. My fiance and I are getting married soon and I have no desire to have sex. I don't want to be a newlywed couple that doesn't have sex. I enjoy sex, but have no desire to do it. Are you on birth control? I've heard that BC sometimes causes a low sex drive. I'm on a phasic BC now and I'm going to see if my doc will switch me so I can see if it changes anything.

[YB001]

Hi ladies. Thanks for responding. I'm not on any type of bc pill. I'm as stressed as the average working class single person. Do i desire him? He has the greatest body 8 pack, the works. He is very attractive, and i do acknowledge it but it does make me wana get it on. It feels like having sex is too much of an effort, i go to the gym regularly and eat properly so it cant be energy and diet. I dont know y i feel this way, i dont have a legitimate reason to. Please help.

[Hopeless Dork]

Have you lost your drive for just sex with your guy or did you also lose it for masturbation as well?

Do you orgasm when you have sex with your boyfriend? Do you orgasm through masturbation?

How is the sex with your S.O when you actually have it? Is it pleasurable, does he provide foreplay, is he a giving lover?

When sex is good we tend to want it more than when sex is not so good is why I ask those questions.

Any antidepressents, pain medicine or alcohol or anything like that in your life? Those can lower drive.

How is the relationship going outside the sex? I know when I am feeling loved and wanted I desire sex more than when I am not feeling that way.

[YB001]

Thanks for replying! Masturbation happens once in a while, more often just before i get my period (sorry for being so open) yes i do orgasm from masturbation through clitoral stimulation. This is how i reach orgasms when we have sex too, oh and through oral sex. Dont think i've ever had an orgasm through penetration alone. He is a giving lover and would b more giving if i allowed him to give. Otherwise our relationship is fine, though this is taking its toll on the relationship.

[YB001]

Also i an not on any meds all all and drink alcohol very seldomly

[WildChild]

Hi ladies. Thanks for responding. I'm not on any type of bc pill. I'm as stressed as the average working class single person. Do i desire him? He has the greatest body 8 pack, the works. He is very attractive, and i do acknowledge it but it does make me wana get it on. It feels like having sex is too much of an effort, i go to the gym regularly and eat properly so it cant be energy and diet. I dont know y i feel this way, i dont have a legitimate reason to. Please help.

You mention his looks and having a good body and that he is a good lover, but how do you feel about him? How does he treat you? Do you feel special with him? Do you feel cared about and valued? Do you feel you cares for you for more than your body or looks?

[YB001]

Difficult 1 to explain, i know he cares alot bout me, he does and says things to show it but i dont feel special, dont know if that makes sense at all. He treats me well but i dont feel treasured, but i dont treat him like that either. Its just neutral. Does any of this make sense?

[loops]

Hi there i no what you are going through i am 28 got married to the love of my life last year. Evey thing is great in our relationship apart from my sex drive as i don't have one anymore and my husband has a high sex drive which puts a strain on things. I don't no why i don't have the need to have sex anymore either i do enjoy it when we do i just don't initiate it. i am not stressed or depressed and my husband try's to help me bless him i just wish there was a pill i could take to get it back. I am like you and have never had an orgasm through penetration sex and wonder if this would make me want sex more. I wish i had the answer for you and me and hundreds of other women out there.