[Guest]

Yes its perfectly normal not to have an orgasm.

In fact its very rare that any women will have an orgasm in their life time.

Thats because of the lifestyle that we live.

Thousands of years ago we had a laid back easy lifestyle now its controlled by clocks.

Now its just work, work, work.

We are so tired and exhausted that there is no time for orgasm.

So why feel disillusioned ?

I respectfully but _completely_ disagree.

Women in this day and age are as liberated as ever.

It is _not rare_ for a female to experience an orgasm.

Thousands of years ago, you were hunting for food and shelter and keeping yourself safe from thieves/vagrants/intruders.

If all you have to worry about these days is a clock....consider yourself lucky.

[WildChild]

It's rare for me to Not to have an orgasm. What is harder is to have a relationship that feels "connected" which takes it to another level.

[nightqueen]

Yes its perfectly normal not to have an orgasm.

In fact its very rare that any women will have an orgasm in their life time.

Thats because of the lifestyle that we live.

Thousands of years ago we had a laid back easy lifestyle now its controlled by clocks.

Now its just work, work, work.

We are so tired and exhausted that there is no time for orgasm.

So why feel disillusioned ?

It is very rare for any woman to have an orgasm in their LIFETIME??

What in the are you talking about??

[GlitterAndStuds]

It's very rare for me to hear about a woman who will have an orgasm every single time. I know I don't, but I'm very satisfied with my and my boyfriend's sex life. I'll agree with anyone who said that emotional connection with the person helps a lot because I do orgasm most of the times that we have sex.

Anyway, my point being, it's perfectly normal to not have one every time. We women are trickier than guys when it comes to that. That's good though, that he is at all concerned about whether he is satisfying you.... A lot of guys just care about whether they do.

One thing I will say is DON'T fake it...haha. They always figure it out.

[LanaBear]

Yes its perfectly normal not to have an orgasm.

In fact its very rare that any women will have an orgasm in their life time.

Thats because of the lifestyle that we live.

Thousands of years ago we had a laid back easy lifestyle now its controlled by clocks.

Now its just work, work, work.

We are so tired and exhausted that there is no time for orgasm.

So why feel disillusioned ?

Wow - not sure what to say other than I guess we can agree to disagree. I find it hard to believe that it is RARE that a woman may not feel the tremendous pleasure of an orgasm in her lifetime. I'm also glad I'm not in that boat.

[kira]

If your satisfied with not always having an orgasm and with how often it does happen then it's fine. Some women have orgasms easy and every time they have sex. Some never have them with just sex and have to have their partners help them with stimulating the clit or using a vibrator before or after sex so both people are satisfied. Some have difficulty ever having an orgasm and can count the number they've had on one hand. Women are more complicated in that regard than men.

I had some luck explaining to my boyfriend that his brain is set to shut things down when he has an orgasm but since my parts can keep going until they get sore my brain is set to stop at his orgasm instead of mine. It came about because he had trouble finishing once and since he never finished I remained full of energy and ready to do more even though he'd worn himself out (and me even though my body wouldn't accept it for awhile) trying. Where as sometimes we expend little energy, I don't have an orgasm, but he finishes well and I actually feel done and sleepy.

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

I respectfully but _completely_ disagree.

Women in this day and age are as liberated as ever.

It is _not rare_ for a female to experience an orgasm.

Thousands of years ago, you were hunting for food and shelter and keeping yourself safe from thieves/vagrants/intruders.

If all you have to worry about these days is a clock....consider yourself lucky.

I think she's right.

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

Wow - not sure what to say other than I guess we can agree to disagree. I find it hard to believe that it is RARE that a woman may not feel the tremendous pleasure of an orgasm in her lifetime. I'm also glad I'm not in that boat.

Here's a simple test - explain what an orgasm feels like.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Na, that's not necessary to "explain" an orgasm on this thread however everyone seems to be shooting down BettyBoop, clearly she works too hard, too many hours is tired and doesn't feel like sex.


Sad, but there are people that go through that and to them I say, SLOW DOWN find me time and never let your sexual side of you subside and leave you, what for? It's a stress release to start with.

CW

[Guest]

Sorry to hear that. I never understand situations where the husband/wife does not want to please their spouse. I don't get it. It just does not seem fair to me.

I totally agree with