[polychromatix]

Okay, I am officially confused as to why the things that make most people horny turn me off. So maybe you guys can help me.

I love making out/kissing passionately; that turns me on like nothing else. I love for a guy to play with my breasts outside of my shirt. I love to rub my privates outside of my jeans. I play with myself a lot outside of my clothes.

BUT... if anyone, even me, touches me inside my clothes, it does nothing for me and turns me off, even touching my private areas and breasts. It does not hurt or feel uncomfortable in any way; I actually don't feel anything at all.

I'm tired of pretending it does things for me when it actually does the opposite... Nobody but me can get me off, or at least hasn't yet, though my boyfriend certainly comes close when he kisses me!

I would like to know what to do, because guys usually like to touch inside the clothes. How can I satisfy someone who loves touching me, like my boyfriend? How do I tell him that it turns me off? And how can he satisfy me?

Here are some things that might help:

Male parts gross me out a little bit and female lower parts aren't much better but are tolerable. I can do stuff with or to guy parts, I just don't care for looking at them.

Vibrators don't do anything except numb me. I don't have any weird fetishes that I know of, and I don't mind being naked so it isn't that.

When I fantasize, it's about what would happen if I was so horny that I couldn't control myself. Which, btw, has never happened to me except when I kiss my current boyfriend and even then it builds over several long kisses. (he's the only guy I've ever met that can kiss well, and has only recently learned how to do that)

I have only had sex once (he kept falling out, so even I knew THAT was bad), but I have done a lot of different kinds of foreplay. I even sucked on a guy once. (God, that was gross!)

I am not gay or bi; I don't like looking at women in a sexual way or kissing them.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

lol.. about gross . no say it's not so?

Okay so you are young, you've only just begun...

You've tried things but so far they are not for you ( doesn't mean forever just now).

You don't sound prudish, but your not exactly totally open yet to the reasons for sex, apart from feeling good or intimacy with your partner, but that it can be a beautiful journey of bonding, learning, feeling sensual, lots of things, and that takes time.

But, do you like your own body?

It sounds to me that you wouldn't stand naked and look in a mirror at yourself either.

It seems where you are most comfortable is with your clothes on.

CW

[polychromatix]

Nope, have no problem with looking at myself in the mirror naked. I don't have any problem being naked in front of my boyfriend either. Sometimes I even walk around naked in my house!

I really, really, really enjoy making out with my boyfriend. It is the closest thing to normal that turns me on- and it does so like crazy!

For some weird reason, I just can only feel something if I'm fully clothed.

And oh, btw, I'm 25 and have done lots of foreplay with three guys and sex with one.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

lol... my bad... "sex with one though" your still young....

mmm.. maybe the way that fabric rubs on your body, turns you on and the feeling of a naked part rubbing on you but he can't touch you closer because your not naked?

The excitement of it all?

I am sure loads of answers will come floading but that's all I can make of it then..

And men who don't kiss need spanking, it's the best part of foreplay, well it is for me, there is something so sexy about a good kisses makes you want to keep going.....

CW

[polychromatix]

"maybe the way fabric rubs on your body turns you on"- You hit the nail on the head with that one! That's exactly how I get myself off- rubbing the seam of my jeans up and down by tugging on the zipper of my pants while grinding.

I had a thought- maybe it is the fabric, maybe if he did things while I was clothed, that could help me. Maybe I have a fetish for fabric or something.

Nope, naked parts rubbing on me don't do anything either, that I know of. Neither does rubbing when all I have is my underwear on. I have to have more fabrics than just that.

How would I help him if he loves to touch my body and it doesn't do anything for me except turn me off? And when I do go to have sex, what can I do? I can see that this is going to be a big problem in that area.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Not really, your body isn't reacting to say, soft skin on skin, it can be quite sexy.. THE feel of jeans that is.

You just have to both experiment more together, this is only one way there will be others and obviously softness is not a strong point for you.

CW

[sourpuss]

It could be due to your masterbation techinque. You may have to train your body to like the feeling of skin on skin. If you've always ever gotten off by rubbing yourself via the outside of your clothing, your body has adapted and that's what it likes.
Try touching yourself more without any clothes on. I'm willing to bet that it wouldn't take much time or effort for you body to like the way that feels as well.

[Guest]

It could be due to your masterbation techinque. You may have to train your body to like the feeling of skin on skin. If you've always ever gotten off by rubbing yourself via the outside of your clothing, your body has adapted and that's what it likes.
Try touching yourself more without any clothes on. I'm willing to bet that it wouldn't take much time or effort for you body to like the way that feels as well.

I think you're right.

[WildChild]

I'll chime in here and agree with Sourpuss too. You can retrain yourself.

[nightqueen]

It's okay. For now, just go with what you like. I bet you will eventually like more of the skin on skin as things progress. If you can get off just by making out, or touching over th clothes, then do that, nothing wrong with it. I don't really like vibrators either. I'm just too sensitive for all that. But, hey, we're all different.