[BabyILoveYou]

Well my boyfriend firengerd
e the other day and it hurt, but beside me point of that, he brought up me giving him head or giving him a blow job. I do not want to, I think it's gross. And it's nasty. I also don't want to because i'm afraid I'll do somethingwrong and he will laugh at me, Im imbersed to look at him after he fingered me, but I love him, he also said that it's kinda not fair, how could I tell hi
I don't want to or something

[Hopeless Dork]

Baby when someone does something for you, you don't owe them a thing. Not one thing. If they expect something just because they give you something -- its not really a gift, is it?

Now fair is fair in relationships at a certain level of maturity. I imagine you both are young? It doesn't sound like you are comfortable with sexual activity yet, and that is OKAY! If your boyfriend is pressuring you beyond your comfort level, it may be time to find a new boyfriend. One that values YOU and your body enough to let YOU decide what you want to do with it.

Don't think that doing something sexual will increase his love for you, either he has it or he doesn't, doing things or letting him do things to you that you don't want just to feel closer to him may have the opposite effect. You want him to respect you, and he's not going to respect a pushover that does things she doesn't want to do just to please him.

[Guest]

If you dont want to give him a blowjob/head then dont its as simple as that!
not all women give blowjobs just as not all men go down on their women.

Just because he fingers you doesnt mean you owe him anything in return id love to be able to give my DH a blowjob/head till he cums in my mouth but i get terrible jawache so have to give up after a little while.

[Na-Na]

It's true you don't have to feel pressured into doing it, but I'd say maybe you should. I'm guessing you've never given a blow job before. It can be embarrassing the first time. Anything sexual can. You're nervous about it. Tell him that. I did with my first partner, and he walked me though it and gave lots of lovely, encouraging comments. Don't try deep throating or anything like that, just take it nice and slow. If you still find it gross after trying it, then you find it gross. Don't do it. Simple as that. As for the fingering, was that your first time too? If so, it might have hurt because you were tense. Or he was rough. Or his fingernails weren't clipped. Again, it's best to start out slow and work your way up.

[Theresa]

If you dont want to give him a blowjob/head then dont its as simple as that!
not all women give blowjobs just as not all men go down on their women.

Just because he fingers you doesnt mean you owe him anything in return id love to be able to give my DH a blowjob/head till he cums in my mouth but i get terrible jawache so have to give up after a little while.

I agree with Mrs. Doodles. If you don't want to don't.

I enjoy giving HJ and BJ's because it makes my DH soooo happy.

Mrs. Doodles - I use a bullet vibrator along with my BJ's and get him to cum in a short time. Have you tried that?

[nightqueen]

If you dont want to give him a blowjob/head then dont its as simple as that!
not all women give blowjobs just as not all men go down on their women.

Just because he fingers you doesnt mean you owe him anything in return id love to be able to give my DH a blowjob/head till he cums in my mouth but i get terrible jawache so have to give up after a little while.

You could get him really close with your hand and then finish him off in your mouth.

[sunchaser]

I agree

Baby when someone does something for you, you don't owe them a thing. Not one thing. If they expect something just because they give you something -- its not really a gift, is it?

Now fair is fair in relationships at a certain level of maturity. I imagine you both are young? It doesn't sound like you are comfortable with sexual activity yet, and that is OKAY! If your boyfriend is pressuring you beyond your comfort level, it may be time to find a new boyfriend. One that values YOU and your body enough to let YOU decide what you want to do with it.

Don't think that doing something sexual will increase his love for you, either he has it or he doesn't, doing things or letting him do things to you that you don't want just to feel closer to him may have the opposite effect. You want him to respect you, and he's not going to respect a pushover that does things she doesn't want to do just to please him.

I agree wholeheartedly. And i for one dont like head either, i find it a tad disgusting... unless chocolate sauce is involved

[Katsaly]

Since when is fingering worth as much a blow job? He's pretty greedy...

Just tell him that if he thinks you owe him a blow job for fingering you, then he shouldn't finger you anymore and leave it at that. And tell him you won't be pressured into doing anything you aren't ready for.

[Toby.W]

Well,it really comes down to you doesen't it??Its you (if you ever agree)thats going to sucking it so you may as well have the choice.Plus,that gives you serious problems.It's foul I'll never do it and If I ever I proably will break up with that guy and never have sex agian.

Decide what will I get out of it?? What will happen to me? What about my health? And most of all what about this relitship??

Byeee

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Toby, hun..

When you are at a young age, it may seem that way.

But, I can almost, guarantee, regarless of the man's age, they ALL love BJ's.

Sweet if you think you will break up if they ask?

They will break up because you don't..

Why?

It's not the act, persay rather the intimacy, two people being open and giving and experimenting.

Only a guy who doesn't care if he gets one or not will accept your proposal of staying in the relationship.

Having said that.

Not at your age... You are right, it is your choice but I want you to understand it is not evil, or bad..

If he touches you in any way, then you need to do the same back.

Because it's called giving.... So don't take and never give..

That's all I am saying.

CW