[AnnaLina]

Hey guys this is my first post. I really need your help.


I've liked this guy from College for a year and have known this guy 2 years. Hes recently showed interest and we're hitting it off very well (yay for me!). He tells me so much, though. Which has made me very very worried about when something finally happens. I'm 21, have only had sex once and that was when I was 17. Needless to say, I'm very out of practise!!
I'm not thin and am really embarrassed by my body. I'm very shy and get very uncomfortable about sex and all that kinda stuff. We like each other and he knows I'm insecure but still I know hes a lot more experienced than i am. I'm so afraid I'll be awful and let him down. His favourite thing is to get head, and while I'm inexperienced, I kind-of don't want to, I'm really embarrassed.

I'm so shy, inexperienced and embarrassed. PLEASE help!

[rcoreyus]

If you really don't want to give him head, then don't. But if it is his favorite thing and you let him know that you haven't done this much (or ever) and willing to try it just for him, he will probably be really appreciative.

Don't be shy about asking for what you want, and asking what he wants - if he reacts badly to either then be happy you found out now and not much later.

[Frustr8ed]

I agree. If you don't want to do it, don't. If it's only because you feel inexperienced, you have nothing to worry about, you really can't do it wrong unless you bite. As for your body, you need to be confident and secure about your looks regardless. Confidence is soooo attractive.

[OG612]

If you're embarrassed about your body, then do something about it.
If you're wanting to be more confident, then do something about it.
If you're wanting to be better in bed, then do something about it. It's not "****ty" to tell a guy you like you want to shag his brains out.

I just Googled "How to be a better lover" and received 196 MILLION hits in 0.18 seconds.

It's your life. Be proactive. If you want change in your life, then do something about it. the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results.

OG

[SFDad]

Okay you wanted a guy's opinion- so here are my thoughts:
If this guy is really into you- and respects you- he is going to be happy to be able to share sex with you.

If it has reached this point- he is turned on by you and your body. Do what you can to try to reach past that insecurity and realize he is probably going to be thrilled by your body.

If you are shy about sex, talk to him about it. Move towards sex at your own speed. Again, if he is into you, it will be fine.

Okay- the giving head thing. Sure he loves it- I love it. But it doesn't have to be first and foremost. My advice is to keep an open mind about it, don't let him pressure you and just try to enjoy sex. As much as I enjoy it, I had one girlfriend who had never done it before and we were together quite awhile before she was willing to give it a try. Just be willing to consider it. Especially if you end up being the happy recipient of his oral attentions.

Good luck- remember- he wants you- the way you are. Relax, get excited, enjoy.

[Guest]

It's your life. Be proactive. If you want change in your life, then do something about it. the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results.

OG

Uncanny - I just said that to someone over lunch.

[OG612]

Uncanny - I just said that to someone over lunch.

Great minds, eh?

OG

[Kakie]

We like each other and he knows I'm insecure but still I know hes a lot more experienced than i am. I'm so afraid I'll be awful and let him down. His favourite thing is to get head, and while I'm inexperienced, I kind-of don't want to, I'm really embarrassed.

if you don't want to do it because you're afraid you won't be good at it, or know what to do, then do some research, search online for tips, even watch some porn and most importantly tell him that you're scared for this reason. he won't laugh or judge you, he'll most probably just help you and guide you..

I kind-of don't want to

however if you don't want to do it because you genuinely just don't want to, for any other reason, then don't feel pressured to do it just because he likes it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Anna.. he's laying the groundrules.

I like you, okay your practically a Virgin but you have to like giving me head or forget it.

That's selfishness on his behalf, he knows, you have told him you had sex ONCE, 17.. correct? You told him.

He is not prepared to be with you unless you do.

What does that tell you about this guy seriously?

Love, a man cannot make demands on you? He can express for sure what he likes and where he is going in life and there is nothing wrong with that, if you can't say but i need time, will you bare with me? And he doesn't say yes off course, I feel for you, then walk..

Try that line on him sweet..

If he says no, that is what I want, then move on.

CW

[Kallygirlie]

Anna, I'm not here to give you advice but to offer you my experience. See everything you just said is everything I was. I was a virgin until i was 19. Every guy I've been with, I was nearly terrified to have sex with them. What if they don't like me, what if i'm not good enough. The giving head thing. Yeah had that to. All I can say is dont think about it. The first time I did it, there was no thought, he didn't ask for it, I just did it. You'll know when you really want to. I was always the girl that said ewwww I'm never doing that and now I love it. As for your confidence. Lord dont i know. I to am not very small and cant remember a time when I was happy with myself. I would NEVER get on top during sex. I was the most boring girl guys could be with. Lay there and take it...lol. Now lets fastforward to today. I am happily taken buy a guy who has had experience. When him and i found each other, i was still feeling just like you. I didn't give him head and just layed there and took it and guess what? He came back!!!! I finally got drunk one night with him and a friend and i ended up giving him head in my kitchen. My friend left later and I ended up getting on top and having sex!!! I woke up thinking oh he's gonna know and leave because I bad I was!!! 2 yrs later, we're talking about getting married. He tells me that I'm the best he's ever had and just by looking at me he's turned on. Deep inside I'm still the same girl that was shy but i'm slowly opening up to telling him what i like. My whole point is dont over think it. If he likes you for who you are, then none of that other stuff will matter. Dont feel pressured and dont think you ahve to do something to keep him. I lost my virginity to a guy who told me I had to have sex with him or we were over. I gave in and he still left me so thinking doing something will make everything better is not a smart thing to do