[jr]

No Brainer.....Of course he wants you.....butt how bad?

Okay first things first.....

You're not being obvious enough! Men need "the dots" put real close together in order to see that a line is actually being drawn.

Second...We don't multi task at anything but football watching and beer drinking. So if you want to get our attention, you have to make it obvious and be real direct. Like "Hey, we've been communicating about a lot of stuff lately and now I'd like to tell you________. Again, keep the dots together.

Third. Much like CW said, the longer you put us off, the more we want it. Speaking as a male, it's the chase not the bargain that keeps us going. Yes, sex is great and lovemaking is awesome.....so make us wait to enjoy both with you. Otherwise your just another notch in a belt of notches.

Finally. Well, not really, but this is enough to go on.....If/When you get naked with each other, don't settle for anything but the best from this guy in bed. Talk about your likes, dislikes, wants and needs. Men enjoy pleasing their partners but most of us need instruction. Who cares? You're naked and in bed together, what could be more personal than that?

One more thing and this is important.....Women in a state of undress tend to think about their "wobbly bits" as Bridget Jones called them. This probably includes one or more of the "trouble area trifecta" spots: stomach, thighs or butt.

Men, on the other hand, skip the wobbles and let their gazes go almost immediately to their favorite parts, whether a woman's clothed or naked. If a man's into the booty, he'll probably start checking out a woman at her feet and work his way up. If the chest's more his thing, he might look you in the eyes before focusing on the breasts.

Whether he's a toe-to-head or head-to-toe kind of guy, what's certain is that he's taking mental snapshots to revisit at a later date.

So where you see flaws and imperfection we see nothing but curves and wonder.

Now get busy!!!!!

[Guest]

Shouldn't all you guys be watching some porn instead of on this site?

LOL. Who says i'm not?

[Haven]

My question is: Do you think he is interested in me sexually or does he just see me as a friend? He has stated that sex with friends can ruin the relationship. I have verbalized my interest in him (not blatantly but really obviously) and he is vague. . . How do I figure out if he wants to take that step? Men help me!!!

My take:
He wants you, but he's worried about drama (and possibly in-person chemistry), so he's left an "out" open that either of you can use to save the friendship if things start to go awry.

You'll know what steps he wants to take when you see him in person. If you can come across as a healthy, attractive person who wants what he wants and isn't going to make trouble for him later, he's as good as yours.