[goodguy28]

I'm in a hurry so I'll make this quick. So this past weekend, I'm away at a friend's bachelor party, and as I text my gf that we're heading to the strip club for the night she texts back, that she's "going to find her own action on the internet" before bed. Which means (as I've come to learn from my time with her) looking for porn.

The next morning, when I text her and reference her porn search, she mentions that she's been watching all morning, mostly 2 girls with 1 guy scenes. Is she maybe trying to tell me something(she's interested in women?), or is porn just porn? Are there any others of you (Women) that watch porn by yourself, specifically with 2 women, and if so, are you bi? Or bi curious?

[WildChild]

This is difficult to make a generalization about. Why not just ask her? What about it attracts her?

[goodguy28]

True, and good point, she said "its always raunchier with another girl", I still don't quite know what she means by this, except that she "likes the raunchier stuff". She never really clarifies that. This is literally one of the only things we don't communicate openly about, her porn thing, and her fantasies. I have a feeling they're a little wilder than she lets on, and may be afraid of telling me.

[Hopeless Dork]

When I watch porn by myself its a plethora of variety, if all her porn is limited to ffm threesomes, she may have that fantasy --- but keep in mind fantasy is fantasy. A lot of people do not want to act out on those fantasies, some do, sure. The threesome is a relationship tester, that's certain. Even the strongest of bonds have been broken treading in those waters. But hey, some do it, some become swingers and make it part of their sex life ongoing, some do it once are done and their relationship is fine.

Is it YOU that is interested in a threesome and getting your hopes up with her porn choices or are you worried she may be bisexual and interested in other women?

Perception is everything.. is this something you are encouraging , discouraging or neutral to?

[Hopeless Dork]

Oh and ... for me, I find female bodies attractive, I've watched porn with just females before as a sexual stimulant -- I have ZERO desire to have sex with a woman, I have ZERO desire to have a threesome with my boyfriend.

[Ahryin]

Oh and ... for me, I find female bodies attractive, I've watched porn with just females before as a sexual stimulant -- I have ZERO desire to have sex with a woman, I have ZERO desire to have a threesome with my boyfriend.

Starting to look at Hopeless in a different way...lol sike I totally understand!!!! I have watched two guys on one girl..I've watched rough porn I appreciate the womans body but I can't do the whole woman on woman lick her no no spot thing..
I have watched porn while in a relationship and I don't really want to experience what I watch just like watching it...lol

[stressed]

Has she started with porn since the day you mentioned the strip club? Wasn't she watching before? Does she still watch?

I can understand why she started with it, she must have thought "you go to a strip club, I do it at home". If she continues with it then you could discuss it with her. However, it could have just happened to make you wonder about things (which succeeded), since you went to a strip club.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Good point stressed.

She's either trying to establish if you are a strayer, player, or hers only....

Or, she does watch this and is bi-curious...


Problem with discussing it with her is if she was just testing you then she will go off.

If, you have seen her watch porn, and it has been with two ladies, then seriously, she is expressing herself.

Which is it?

CW

[goodguy28]

Well, she doesn't mind me going to strip clubs, which happens only at bachelor parties (for me anyway, not big on strippers personally) so I know she doesn't have a problem with that. She watched porn before we dated, so I don't know much about this (together for about 6 months). And no, I don't have any interest in a threesome(or swinging) with her, I really like this woman, and the fact that I've never had a threesome before would probably freak me out a little bit - I'd be better off having a threesome with two randoms.

She's done quite a bit more (sexually speaking) than I have (anal, in public, etc), so thats why I kind of wonder about this, I sometimes think she may be holding back on what she'd really like to do with me, any thoughts on that? One thing it could be though, is similar to what HD said about finding female bodies attractive, I do know she "checks out" women, but I don't know how serious that attraction is.

[Miya]

I've watched it with FFM before and find it a bit of a turn-on myself. I've never had a desire to share my man with another woman but always been a little curious about being with another woman myself. I guess there is a bit of bi curiosity with me. I'm not sure what I'd do if I was ever in the situation to choose.

So it could very well be a fantasy or curiosity but if she's happy with you and doesn't say anything, then I doubt there is something to worry about. She has her own thoughts that make her happy so just be happy about it too unless she starts complaining about your sex life then something may be amiss.