[Pleaser]

Apologies for invading your message board in search of advice but i wanted help! Basically my girlfriend can only orgasm through the use of the shower head, she's never been able to orgasm even through masturbation, oral or pentrative sex and it's only the shower that works. Any ideas?

[Theresa]

I have tried the "shower orgasm" but has not worked for me. I must not be doing it right.

Anyway....I need clit stimulation to orgasm for the most part. Do you focus on that?

[Pleaser]

spend a lot of time on clit stimulation in and around the hood, being careful not to work too hard, but the clit does seem quite small and i wonder if this may explain why only the jet of a shower works...

[WildChild]

I've done it but not in years, it just wasn't too appealing for some reason. Depending on the setting she is using I think what does it is the very direct stimulation of the clit. That could be a bunch of fine streamed water streams that are "harder" or the larger but gentler streams. It's still all clit stimulation. The book, One Hour Orgasm, gives detailed instructions for using your hands for clit stimulation, I think you might find that helpful.

[nightqueen]

How about a vibrator? At least that would put you in the bedroom and out of the shower.

[LanaBear]

I tried it, but it was unsuccessful for me. It felt too awkward. I would rather use my own fingers.

[Guest]

How about a vibrator? At least that would put you in the bedroom and out of the shower.

True - however I think he'd like to be the person pleasuring her, rather than a mechanical device.

If he buys her a vibrator, that will make it even harder for him to get the job done.

[Kallygirlie]

OTYA, thats not always true. My man and i went out and bought a toy together. Granted its for both of us but the vibrator that inserts is more for me. Not to mention, he'll use the vibrator sometimes to stimulate me because when he uses his finger its way to much. He's got really big hands and for some reason when he tries to stimulate using his fingers, its like way to intense. No oral is different of course. Anywho my point is, even tho he uses a vibrator sometimes, it doesnt take away from when he does other things. that whole, if a girl uses a vibrator she no longer can be pleased by a man is totally bogus. A vibrator might help her. At least its something he can do with is own hands. Get a little silver bullet. That will allow you to still touch her for your enjoyment and also give her pleasure.

[Guest]

OTYA, thats not always true. that whole, if a girl uses a vibrator she no longer can be pleased by a man is totally bogus.

Sweetie - i've been sexually active since I was 13. And I don't mean just fugging. I mean actually pleasing women.

Your body gets used to a certain level and certain type of stimulation. The longer and more frequent the action the more the habit becomes ingrained.

In my vast experience women who regularly use vibrators as their preferred mode of masturbation require more effort during oral/manual/penetrative play in order to achieve an orgasm.

So I humbly disagree with your statement.

Now - if vibrator use is an occasional thing and a smaller part of the repertoire, it has less of an effect, but it is still there. Try using your vibrator in the morning and then have your guy perform oral in the evening. You'll see what I mean.

It's not brought up often here, but if you go to other women's health forums there are countless threads on women who have been de-sensitived by using their vibrators more often than is prudent.

[LanaBear]

Your body gets used to a certain level and certain type of stimulation. The longer and more frequent the action the more the habit becomes ingrained.

In my vast experience women who regularly use vibrators as their preferred mode of masturbation require more effort during oral/manual/penetrative play in order to achieve an orgasm.

So I humbly disagree with your statement.

Now - if vibrator use is an occasional thing and a smaller part of the repertoire, it has less of an effect, but it is still there. Try using your vibrator in the morning and then have your guy perform oral in the evening. You'll see what I mean.

It's not brought up often here, but if you go to other women's health forums there are countless threads on women who have been de-sensitived by using their vibrators more often than is prudent.

I do have to agree with OTYA here. I posted about it before on another thread. I very rarely use my vibes anymore, we'll use my glass dildo before anything else these days.