[Amber_1992]

alright well sadly im only 16 and i lost m virginity recently and him and i had sex again on Halloween and ever since Ive had so much tension and the urge to have sex with him. i don't masturbate or anything because i have my own opinion on it and im against it. idk what to do or how to solve it. im just so horny im extremely emotional and he cant do anything.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

So sweet, there is absolutely nothing wrong with masterbation if your partner is not with you, if he is you are fine to believe that you don't need to do it... That's your call.

What are you upset about? What has he said? How long have you been with him?

Welcome to the Forum.

CW

[WildChild]

Are you using conception control?
What is it that he can't do?
Masterbation helps you learn what it takes to orgasm, relieves tension, and lets you know your own body and be in charge of your sexuality when you can't be with a lover.
From the little you've said I'd guess you had sex, didn't orgasm but maybe came close and your body is craving that expereince?

[LanaBear]

I can't add anything to the above, but if you could elaborate as to what you confused and upset about, it would help us give you advice.

[StillLearnin]

Sounds like you are freaking out mainly about it being your first time. It will be ok.
Just be careful and use protection.

[nightqueen]

You don't have a problem having 16 at sex, but think masterbation is wrong? What kind of advice are you seeking?

[Awoman2]

You don't have a problem having 16 at sex, but think masterbation is wrong? What kind of advice are you seeking?

You took the words right off my fingertips.

[ThexMrs]

Please elaborate on what is confusing, what he can't do and why you're emotional. Also, if you don't mind... I'm curious as to why you don't masturbate and what you think is wrong with it?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Okay, a little bird added some more, so this is my take


You've had sex with him a few times and you almost had an orgasm and it's playing on your mind because you want that, you want to feel that, but when you discussed it with him, he didn't know what you were talking about persay, he only is having sex, he's not mature enough to understand how women think, and that this can occur at just 16, and it's scared him.

He feels easier not to have as much sex and you won't feel like that. He's not realising that he would benefit if you had an orgasm and that he would be pleasing you as well and that it's okay.

I think your saying you don't masterbate but that you can almost orgasm with your boyfriend and want to feel it but he's not allowing it, chickening out if you will, and slowing down your sex between you.

He needs more understanding, so let the other's guide you a little there in how to help him see it's okay and fantastic if he can bring you to that level...

CW

[Amber_1992]

how can i make it easiar on him to not be scard of it? could it also be the fact hes afraid he might come inside me and we concieve.