[goodnightirene]

Lust or Pride

Is lust a sin? Life is short, be safe and enjoy it.

[goodnightirene]

BTW, ladies. I'm 45. Was lust crazed at 18, late 20's early thirties and now. I suppose it's hormonal, but also emotional. The better I feel about myself the more I enjoy my body and what it's capable of

[WildChild]

I agree with you Irene, when I'm happy, I'm horny! Age doesn't seem to have anything to do with it! Problem is finding a partner who can keep up.

[Joy]

hahah my bf tells me he is not a machine. I find that so funny cause alot of guys biggest complaint is they don't get enough lovin. I'm lovin my dirty thirties........

[WildChild]

Oh Yeah! (lol) What I'm dealing with is, he's can always get it up for his five fingers, five times a day but I'm on the shelf. Men complain about women not wanting it but then they shut down, shut you out and then don't understand why they can't just hit the button have you raring to go. I'm thinking about printing up personal cards - Ms. Poison, Kiss of Death to Male Libido. If I get one more turn down I just may do it, got a pile of card stock for the printer around here somewhere....

[tpsunshine]

addicted to attention

I am so glad to read everyone elses experience I am 33 and in love with my 40 year old husband who is very good in bed,problem is we have two small children and he just cannot keep up with my appetite and I never used to feel this way. I began craving other mens attention until it has just become an addiction to me that at one time it was affecting my job and my attitude at home. I began to have an affair and he as well cannot keep up with me. I feel so ashamed but I seem to have no self control anymore and I am scared it is going to jump up and bite me soon. If I feel not so alone I feel like maybe I can deal with this problem. I would like some kind of control back. I as well as people here in the forum have watched porn and masturbated several times a week. Thank you all for being so frank.

[WildChild]

In youth we don't appreciate those young men with all that staying power and repeats. I'm not much into porn, can take it or leave it. Masterbation gets boring after a few years. I'd take a guess that what you are missing is the feeling of deep connection that comes with good sex in a good relationship. I've avoided having affairs - just too complicated - but it has been tempting in the past.

I'd make a couple of suggestions; find a good counselor who can help you understand this need and two start focusing on quality in your sexual experience. Look into tantra and Extended Massive Orgasm which focus on a high quality experience with self control. EMO requires the ability to totally relax but that actually takes a high degree of self control. A good intense exersize program may help too. But my top guess with this is that you are missing something emotionally and trying to fill the void with sex. Get some professional non-religious (you don't need a guilt trip) assistance, you don't want to lose your marriage or kids over this addiction.

[xtonbratx]

being a horn dog is a mixed bag!

i'm 31 and i swear in just like the last two weeks i am horny every day. i've always had a good amount of lust going but this is nuts! i just can't get it to go away. i have sex with my husband-it's still there-i go to work-it nags me (when we having sex again? after work? as soon as we get home? huh huh huh?)-i masturbate till i'm sore-still there!!!!. i feel like i'm going crazy and that i'm going to end up making my husband feel like a tool. as someone in this forum mentioned exercise does help, but the draw back is that it has increased my flexibility and stamina, not to mention made me lose a couple pounds which makes me feel sexier!!!!!!!!! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!! seriously, can someone please just tell me where the off switch is?! i'm tired and my box is bruised!!!

[LaurelP]

Like you my sexual urge just started up out of the blue, it was November 14th 2007, I was 44 yrs old and I was on the computer playing a game at pogo.com. I don't know why this started now which this was a shocker at the time and I know we have peaks later on than guys do. One thing that brings me to this was if guys get wet dreams what do us women get? Then there were issues for me and it was the fact that I have a High Sex drive and why later on did this occur and not earlier like when I was 39 or perhaps 40 yrs old. I researched this information and spoke to this doctor and she told me that its from a chemical imbalance something we are missing and if that isn't the case I said to her then what is? Further into my research I found that most women coming from a religious back ground, ok so you don't practice it anymore but for the most part let's say 94% of them do fall in this bracket. I looked up this information on the web and came across something that carries on from each generation and they are called generational curses, google it and read to your heart's content and then come back and tell me if you believe this or not. Anyway do you ladies remember a movie called The Entity where a woman was being raped by a demon, and this is a true story and even in real life for some of these women today it is happening and perhaps whatever's been picked up, we tend to carry on what generation left off from there. I think the only way to stop it is to take a drug that is truly prescribed, but you need to ask your doctor about it and see if they will give it to you, it just decreases the urges to nothing. The drug you want to take is WelButrin, brand name of bupropion, lowest over all rate of sexual dysfunction. What did I do to help my urges I struggled big time and yes I slept with a few guys and I still see them for sex. I guess when your really, really horny you will do nasty things that turn you on, like the kinkier side of life, an area where some things are forbidden, e.g rimming, fisting, peeing and scat. I liked it when a guy peed all over me and I would rub it in. Let's be honest how else can WE women deal with this if we are not honest with each other.

[WildChild]

Laurel, dear, it's just my cronish opinion but your doctor has their head stuck up someplace where the sun don't shine! A chemical imbalance it isn't! Unless you are insatiable 24/7 it's normal. The lack of desire is what is abnormal and you are right there are deep societal weirdnesses behind it. Your interest in so called fetishes or "kink" is a reflection of societal warping. The need to make sex dirty, nasty and ugly is a reflection of this. Healthy sex is about pleasure and sharing and joy. It is one of the great gifts in life and there is nothing abnormal or unbalanced about it.