[Tango]

Thank you

Thank you all for your encouraging comments. Just hearing another person's perspective helps reaffirm what I already know. He loves me, we have a great sex life, and he just enjoys the visual stimulation. I guess it's good he's been so honest and open about it when I've talked to him. It shows he has nothing to hide.

When I started to think more about what guys do and what girls do, I realized he happily bought me a vibrator not even considering it would ever replace him, he just knows it would physically stimulate me. He doesn't care if I read trashy novels, or if I enjoy a sexy commercial or rated r movie. So I shouldn't be bothered by a visual stimulant he enjoys.

Now I have to find a way to patch up the guilt he probably feels.

In an effort to just vent and maybe heal-

I have had really awful relationships in the past and I think I tend to overreact unjustly. I don't want to make him feel guilty for his interest in porn. I think I'm still learning to cope with some trauma of the past and every once in awhile the old emotions of being mistreated sneak back to the surface. Healing takes time, I'm lucky he's been patient.

[caterpillar79]

He's lucky, you've been patient, loving and supportive that you are.

Keep it up!

[kira]

I spent months tracking down any type of porn on my husband's old laptop when it became mine. All just so I could embaras him. Eventually he removed everything interesting. So boring now. :/ I had to start filling the harddrive back up with stuff for me to watch.

We both watch porn and we both watch our own porn. He tends to like amateur stuff and I just find it dumb. I tend to watch hentai although it takes some effort to find series that aren't way out there.