[LoveKush]

I am a 25 year old female, attractive with a fit body. I am a nude model and feel very comfortable in my skin, being shown in an artistic nude fashion.

I feel sexy but I don't like sex.

I am finally admitting it now as before I was afraid to tell myself this because everybody likes sex. I am also bisexual and I know I like both sexes but sex does not feel good to me. I love oral sex. I love giving and receiving oral with men and women. I also masturbate often. I can acheive orgasm with oral (yet it takes a long time) and I can quickly reach orgasm solo but I have to use a vbrator and I can only cum if its on my clit. If I use my fingers I can't cum and if I insert the vibrator it is very uncomfortable and unpleasant.

I do get turned on before I have sex but I do not get wet. I am always overly dry and have always been this way. I will use lube if its available but that dries up quickly too. I've used different kinds and they all dry up within 30 seconds. Often sex can be very painful. Even with fingers only. Any type of penetration is awkward for me. Sometimes I have to stop because my inner labia becomes so swollen that its impossible to get anything in and it almost feels like I need to put an ice pack on my cooch. I am naturally very tight even though I've been with very large and small men. I don't know why its so uncomfortable for me. I never have orgasms from penetration either. When I first started having sex at 16 I had a couple orgasms and the last time I had an orgasm (from sex), I was 18. Since then, sex has been uncomfortable and I don't think I really like it.

[sudonimity]

You probably did not want to hear from a guy, but your title caught my attention and I had to reply.

I completely agree with you!!!!

I too am a nude model (we are in desperate need for models if you are looking for work) and I am also married, but I really hate sex. I am very sexually minded to almost being perverse, but the truth is when it comes down to actually having sex it makes me uncomfortable and it can even be painful like you said. Doing it my self is usually more desirable than someone else doing it.

I say all this though to encourage you, that as long as it is not a medical reason that you are in pain there is nothing wrong with you. There are many other people out there just like you that may be too embarrassed to admit it. In your search for a partner, if you can find someone else like this it will make it a lot less stressful for both of you and you will be happier; if not, or you already have some one who you really like, as long as the bond is there they will want to please you in any way that you want. You can have a very close, intimate time without penetrating. It may be hard, but you are who you are, be happy with it; you are obviously beautiful or else people would not want you to model for them. Just because someone else likes something does not mean that you have to like it.

[Hopeless Dork]

I think you just need to change your outlook on what you are experiencing, it sounds to me like you like and enjoy sex just fine and even better than a lot of women... its penetration that you don't like. Nothing wrong with that. You orgasm and enjoy intimacy, you sound like a giving lover and someone that would be fun to have sex with for both your male and female partners. The fact that you have difficulty orgasming with only vaginal stimulation is COMMON... the painful aspect is something that you might want to see a gynocologist about.

Allthough if you manage to be juicy for other play and just tend to dry up for intercourse it could be a mental block... you fear the pain, get nervous, dry up, so the cycle repeats... also becoming tense can make for difficult painful penetration.

You are one of the lucky women who is secure in her body and sexually free, you experience sexual pleasure (orgasms) and so many women just don't at all, vaginal or clitoral.

I orgasm both ways clitorally and vaginally, but use to need clitoral stimulation in excess to orgasm but I sort of trained my body to be able to orgasm with minimal or little clitoral stimulation by masturbating without using it. Waiting until I was extremely arroused then pleasing myself using finger penetration with no attention to the clitoris. It was difficult to accomplish at first but if you are turned on enough, your body wants that orgasm and finds a way to get it lol, at least that was the case for me.

But either way, enjoy your sexuality and the fact that you are a sexual person, don't let the fact penetration isn't your thing make you feel like you don't like sex... you do

[Futureboy]

Good advice above

Not everyone enjoys sex its not everything in life

You are enjoying sex just not penetration sounds more physical than mental go and see your doctor even if its just piece of mind.

Hope it all works out

[toto]

i think u had a bad experience in or related to sex which made u suffer from vaginismus.

i had to for 4 mth.. i hated sex to the point of giving up everything related to it (my lovely husband). but now i recover from it bcoz i faced my negative thoughts about sex.

in the link above there is a self-guide book to treat yrself.. it deserve ur time & effort.

btw now i' m not satisified if i don't have 2 intercourse sex daily : )

[nonsex]

Ouch, took a year finally to found it.I think I am in the same boat...

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

I don't believe women dont like sex, there has to be a good reason why you wouldn't like sex.

Has some one interferred with you ?

Psycho-sexual trauma ?

You don't like the way your genitals look, our some other part your not happy with ?

Other than that its poor techique.

I dont know why you wouldn't be wet if you find it erotic ?

Dildos - to me thats just commerce its not about making love to a women and how it should be done.

I think you have to find a lover that is patient and genuinely cares about YOU, and is not primarily concerned about his own needs.

I have never had a GF that didnt get wet.

None.

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

Human beings to some extent have lost their way, sex has become a selfish ignorant act that is at worst, - is a nightmare, at best orgasm, but orgasm I believe is rare.

[Guest]

By what i understand your publication, you like sex, what you don't like is the penetration? am I right or no?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

2009 thread, OP never returned

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