[lindaluz]

There's this funny song in spanish about a guy who is upset with his wife because 6 of his children are fair skinned and one is dark, so he accuses her of cheating on him and that the dark skinnned child is not his. She confessed that she did cheat and that the dark skin child was the only one that WAS his child.

There could be a possibility that the other woman faked and were not being honest with you. And your girlfriend now is the only one to tell you the truth. I and many other woman have dont this many times to avoid an uncomfortable situation after something that is supposed to be great.

I think that your girlfrien now is honest with you and confident enough to ask for what she likes or needs. It should'nt make you feel bad at all. After all she is feeling the pleasure.

In my opinion I think there are more fakers than women who actually have an orgasm during sex. (from actual male penetration)

You guys are on the right road and set a good example.

[Hooster]

I think also, it's mindset That they can't.

That being that some women can totally let go of all inhibitions when with a man and other's hold a mental block, fear of showing that side of her, the wild side, or the naughty side, the tarty side if I can be blunt....

Preferring to off course be acceptable in bed, but just can't let go totally...

One of the best positions I think for vaginal orgasms, is side on, pulling her to you, pushing her outwards away from you, confusing her and making it exciting....

The point I am trying to make is sometimes, it's not a physcial thing, but mental and over time you may actually jump that hurdle...

CW

Great post.... clitoral stimulation is powerful but mental stimulation beats it hands down. Getting a woman to talk dirty is a good way to get her to loosen up and let go. Try talking dirty to her during sex: "do you want me to you harder?" "Wow. your is tight" "Do you like ing doggy style?" "do you like it like this long time?"

You can actually make a woman get very aroused, just by talking to her. I have been on a car trip with a lady and discussed our recent sexual escapades with her. When I started talking about the time I screwed her standing up in the bathtub, with her bent forwards and we could see everything in the mirror, then things almost got out of hand. She pretty much wanted me to stop the car and have sex with her on the side of the road, or have oral sex with me while driving...

This lady was very experienced and open minded and I can see it could take a lot to make some of the more conservative ladies relax and lower their guard.

[WildChild]

The mind is the most powerful sexual organ and we live in a world that works to suppress women's sexuality. It's small wonder that so many have some trouble with arousal.

Some women are turned on by talking "dirty", for others it would be a turn off. Exploring and discovering what gets her going should be part of the adventure of getting to know a lover. Unfortunately many women are rather disconnected from their sexual responses and have trouble communicating this. Establishing a feeling of safety and comfort helps.