[ltsang]

I know that I'm not suppose to be in here ladies. My wife just came to the US to live me. She does not understand a word of English. Ever since she arrived here we started to have sex. Well in the beginning we didn't. Then after she settle down in the US. She started to have sex with me. One time we did it for 3 nights with no condom. Then few days later we did it with condom. One time I used the dry one with the red box. She didn't like it. She said it hurts and its dry. Its Trojan non lubricated. The number 1 trusted in America one. Then it itches inside of the vagina. Then I brought the durex one with lubricated, she said it feels so much better. Then after a few days she said it itches again. So I went to walgreens and ask the pharmacy if they have anything to wash inside of the vagina. She recommended me Summer eve. The one where you stick it inside the vagina and washes it. Then last night she said the vagina is red. Does anyone know if this is normal or not? Please help. Ty.

[caterpillar79]

She got irritated with the dry intercourse and it could also be with the condoms you used or condoms in general (the material that the condom is made of). You had her douche herself, too. She must have an allergic reaction on all those stuff. Do you know of any pre-existing conditions she has prior to you having sex?

Don't delay, schedule a doctor's appointment the soonest possible time. And with her condition right now, don't have sex yet as it will aggravate the irritation more. Have her drink plenty of water, since she is also susceptible to catch UTI at this time. Take good care of her.

While waiting for the doc, have her eat fruits that are rich in vitamin C to help boost her immune system.

[WildChild]

Sounds like her vaginal tissue is irritated. How much foreplay do you have? She MUST be very wet and aroused to have comfortable, enjoyable sex. Dry sex is a miserable experience for women. Adding a douche, which is what I assume the Summer's Eve is, to already irritated tissue is only going to make her more uncomfortable.

Back off on intercourse until she is healed and focus on kissing, touching and using your hands and tongue to arouse her and help her feel more relaxed about being intimate. After having this painful experience she may start feeling aprehensive about sex and just touching her lovingly and let her heal up will help that. After she is healed and you resume sex, you should also get some personal lubricant. This is helo a lot too.

The two of you may want to get some good books for couples on sexual technique.

[sourpuss]

Invest in some lubrication that should make things much easier. If she's still having the same problem, she could be allergic to latex. If that's the case, then you'll have to use the lambskin condoms.

[ltsang]

Thank you ladies. So you think the best way for me stay off sex for a while. Oh Also she has menstruation or something like that. She told me that menstruation last for one month. Can anyone tell me in English what is this mean? Her brother in China told me this. I never knew this word until he told me. He didn't actually tell me, he used the computer to translate it in English for me. Well anyways this menstruation is making the vagina bleeding am I correct. This last for one month. So during that time I was wondering if I am able to have sex with her. The language that she speaks in Mandarin. I can barely understand her. They also speak Cantonese which I can understand. Thanks for help.

What is lampskin condom? I never heard of that brand. Also what kind of lubrication do yall assume. Does the lubrication effect her vagina as well? Does it stinks? Does it stinks my as well? Let me know thanks.

[sourpuss]

There are all kinds of lubrication in the condom section at the store. Just start with the standard kind, nothing fancy.

Menstruation is her monthly period, where she will bleed for a week. If you are both comfortable having sex when she is bleeding, then it's ok. Some people prefer not to have sex that week, it's really up to her and you.

[caterpillar79]

Lambskin condoms as I know are different from latex condoms. Some manufacturers claim it's from a natural membrane, thinner than the latex types, which will make you "feel" more inside. They are lubricated with "jelly-type" lubricant. And Lambskin is not a "brand" per se, it is "the make" of the condom.

Most use Astroglide for lubrication. I haven't used any personally. But like WC said, you have to engage her to a lot of foreplay and touching.

During a woman's period, though she has discharge (blood), and seems to be wet, she is more sensitive during this time leaving her skin to get irritated easily. If you have sex during her period, please wait until she is almost done with it, but still use some lube.

While there are some women who have unusually long periods, I reckon you have her checked by a GYN for sure. A month long is too much for a period (I meant menstruation) in an ideal setting.

[ltsang]

Well I'm not planning on do it. Do you think menstruation and having sex at the same time will cause her not to have babies? Also I went to walgreens and I saw woman's condom. What does it looks like and how does she put it in? Can you explain this? Thanks.

Its either a month or a week. Then she said wait until the next week after until we can have sex again.

[caterpillar79]

Well I'm not planning on do it. Do you think menstruation and having sex at the same time will cause her not to have babies?

Having sex during menstruation and 3-5 days after the period (depending on how long she has hers), she will not get pregnant if that's what you're asking. Look up some literature on the net and also on Planned Parenthood for more info on this.

Also I went to walgreens and I saw woman's condom. What does it looks like and how does she put it in? Can you explain this? Thanks.

I have not tried any of those, so I can't share any on that matter.

[ltsang]

I'm just asking if the menstruation will affect the her pregnancy in the future. If I have sex with her during it.