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  • pretzel
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 1557

    Originally posted by ocularone
    thank you hopeless..that gives me good insight. I too have made that dumb choice in telling her i don't deserve her. However mine has a little more context to it. Still, it's hard to not think it sometimes. If you viewed a wrap-sheet of our lives. You would see that she is one-of-a-kind and amazing in ever sense of the word. I am completely and painfully ordinary.

    In what sense?

    Don't judge your worth based on what you may think that others may or may not believe.

    Confidence and self-awareness are qualities most people strive for. If those are things you would consider ordinary, then you're well ahead of the game.

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    • WildChild
      Banned
      • Sep 2008
      • 14142

      Tell her think she is amazing, leave out the part that you think you are ordinary. You don't know what kind of jerks she may have dealt with. You Must have something going for you or she wouldn't be sticking around.

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      • Hopeless Dork
        Veteran Member
        • Dec 2008
        • 4255

        Originally posted by ocularone
        thank you hopeless..that gives me good insight. I too have made that dumb choice in telling her i don't deserve her. However mine has a little more context to it. Still, it's hard to not think it sometimes. If you viewed a wrap-sheet of our lives. You would see that she is one-of-a-kind and amazing in ever sense of the word. I am completely and painfully ordinary.
        You're aren't ordinary, a one of a kind and amazing in every sense of the word woman has found you fascinating enough to fall in love with... so you need to pat yourself on the back (privately of course lol) and say... yeah... I had it going on more than I thought Instead of treating your girlfriend like she's the head of some relationship charity and picked some low-level guy to make him feel good. She didn't. She picked you because she thinks you are awesome.

        Inside your head you can question your own awesome factor- but don't make an argument to her that she can do better... you wouldn't want to win that argument anyway - right?
        Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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        • ocularone
          Senior Member
          • Feb 2010
          • 182

          Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
          ... you wouldn't want to win that argument anyway - right?
          so very true :-)
          "I met in the street a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, his cloak was out at the elbows, the water passed through his shoes, - and the stars through his soul."- Victor Hugo

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          • heryseshta
            Senior Member
            • Nov 2008
            • 105

            If you want to tell her how appreciative you are you can just say things like "I don't know how I was lucky enough to end up with you" it expresses the same feelings and yet doesn't have the implied insult.

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