[danceintx]

Ok, so my bf and I were discussing this the other night, because it is a story from my past. We were wondering what exactly this was considered and mabye you guys have had a similar experience. I had an ex once who would penetrate me while asleep, often. I am a very heavy sleeper, but not THAT heavy. I also never had this problem previous or prior. It would bother me and I would ask him about it, and after several times of this happening, would argue about it. At one point I was pretty ****ed about it continuing to happen. Why do you think this guy liked to penetrate me while I was asleep or unconcious?

[ocularone]

it isn't uncommon for some men men to have a "sleeping fetish". It's hard to say but it's possible he just enjoyed sex while you slept?

[WildChild]

I think you would need some prior agreement on this. I don't know that it would be a really big issue but I'd rather be aware and in on the fun.

[Mes T]

Well that's a big fantasy for me, actually, though at some point I would want to wake up so I would be able to appreciate it happening!

But if both partners weren't in agreement about this, I would consider this to be a huge problem.

[calamity]

When it happened to me with my ex, I considered it a form of rape. But that also had a lot to do with his attitude about it the next morning when I figured out what had happened. It was all my fault because I wasn't awake, you know..

[Explorer44]

This can be a double edged sword.

The woman can feel violated since she was not a willing participant.

I do know that this a fantasy for some men and women though...I agree that I'd want to be awakened for the experience...I'm not all that sure I would sleep through it in the first place.

My ex SO told me that several times I was actively dreaming about our romantic interludes, and that one time I actually gave him a hand job while sleeping. I told him there was no way, but he was totally serious. We discovered that there seems to be a correlation between my beverage consumption, romantic evenings, and my having these erotic dreams.

[rcoreyus]

A couple needs to understand what is and isn't acceptable when asleep, or otherwise without specific consent. You really need to discuss because different people have very different ideas of what would be fun, and what would feel like a violation.

[calamity]

Doesn't the law, in most states, have something to say about having sex with someone who's unconscious or unaware? I think it's called rape. They can't give consent or participate.

[p3375]

"Doesn't the law, in most states, have something to say about having sex with someone who's unconscious or unaware? I think it's called rape. They can't give consent or participate."

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I donno about that. Seems the law would say if you're sleeping w/ a guy you've given tacit consent.

For a while I had a bf who would do that pretty often. We always slept in the nude, and often I'd wake up around 3 a.m. with him inside me. It was always from behind when he did it, in 'spooning' position. His hand would be on my breast gently rubbing while he eased into me. I'm sure I participated in this while still asleep, 'cause I would have had to turn my hips some for him to get in. It often happened after we'd had sex before sleeping (young guy, full of energy) and I was already wet from before.

Anyway, he was always slow and gentle 'til I was fully awake and participating. I loved it! Most times I didn't cum, but really liked drifting into wakefulness to find him inside me. Guess it just depends on the situation.
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[GlitterAndStuds]

It depends on the individual people involved. Some would love that, others would feel totally violated from not knowing/giving consent.

Personally, I'm totally with Mes on this one. I wouldn't mind one bit if my boyfriend were to do that, as long as I woke up at some point to enjoy it. There have been a couple times where he's woken me up just by touching, but that was his intention. And he's said many time that I can wake him up like that whenever I'd like.

BUT.... I've been with him long enough for him to know it would be okay with me, and vice versa. If you have to ask yourself whether or not your partner would be okay with what you're about to do, or get upset, you probably shouldn't do it until you ask them. People could get in trouble that way.