[Guest]

i think its like rape.. unless the female has said at some point in advance she would enjoy it, it is sex without consent.. therefore it is rape.

[beebee02]

I think you should just enjoy it! My husband does that to me all the time...and well it's a nice wake up call. Some times it's better when he wakes me up while he's in me because I'm probably already having a sex dream anyway...

[calamity]

It can only awaken a sensual side or be a nice wake up call if you wake up. If you're totally unconscious during the whole thing and can't give consent or participate, it's still technically rape. Legally also, I think, but state laws may vary. I was married at that time and I still felt violated and it destroyed my trust in him.

OTOH, if your partner starts arousing you while you're sleeping and wakes you up for some late nite fun that you actually are aware of and can participate in, and desire, that's an entirely different story.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

i think its like rape.. unless the female has said at some point in advance she would enjoy it, it is sex without consent.. therefore it is rape.

For real? They are a couple, he's aroused, wants to arouse her.. How is that rape?

[luvsonly1]

For real? They are a couple, he's aroused, wants to arouse her.. How is that rape?

I agree with you & if you are being sexually aroused...who can sleep thru that? There is not way I could be completely out the whole time my husband is making love to me.

[rcoreyus]

Arousal and rape aren't related - some women orgasm even from violent rape.

In this case I think its rape IF she has made it clear she doesn't want this. It is just fine if she has made it clear she does want it. If nothing has been said, I don't think it counts as rape, but I think he should ask first (in advance) if it is OK - thats just good manners.

For real? They are a couple, he's aroused, wants to arouse her.. How is that rape?

[Guest]

It can only awaken a sensual side or be a nice wake up call if you wake up.

Her sleep through it? Physical mismatch, no?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think rape is a very strong word.

I assume that sex was also had "awake"...

I would conclude, "disrespectful and taking advantage, not considering her feelings, ignoring them, selfish, rude, not boyfriend material" but not rape, unless there was no sexual intercourse through the waking times.

[rcoreyus]

I'd only count it as rape if she had previously said she didn't want this. In that case though, unwanted sex when the "victim" can't resist (starts out asleep), I think counts as rape.

[Guest]

How long have you been together? Ten or fifteen times could be a small amount. What position were you in? Positions are critical, spooning, you on your stomach or missionary? I have awakened half asleep with my wife grinding on my crouch in the spoon position, she was asleep. So, I obliged by entering and as they say the rest is history. Are you dreaming, backing into him? Have you had too much to drink? You should wake up during penetration. Just remember, you may awaken, but nothing says he is awake, initially.