[dude123]

The is no problem asking her to do something you like. There should be no problem with her asking you to do what she likes.

You could ask for her to give you head, and at the same time ask what she would like you do do for her. Might get you talking more - which is a good thing for a relationship.

She doesn't like or want anything it seems. Her indifference sucks

[dude123]

If you want more head, make her feel like she's beautiful when she does it for you. Like she excites you and turns you on... that you enjoy looking at her face while she is giving you extra special attention.

If you say ' can you blow me more'... odds are... you probably won't get blown much more.

If you tell her how awesome she makes you feel when she does it, how you can't stop thinking about how good she is ... you will get it more.

If you knew your girl got off one something you did... if it made you feel like a stud, you'd probably LOVE doing it for her.

Many girls are similiar, we want to feel beautiful and sexy and wanted... if you can make her feel that way about doing that act -- you'll get it a lot.

Well i try to tell her how much i like it but she doesnt seem to like that i dont get why. Like soemtiumes i say "your the best" after she does it and she smiles and says yea why cuz i blow u. Or one time i said that was th ebest bj i ever had and she seemed turned off that i spoke of the bj. I dunno mauybe i should just start asking.

[stressed]

Maybe you should replace the word "bj" with something 'nicer', or describe it to her instead, so she feels that it's not just something mechanical she does that you like. Describing what you want her to do might turn her on.

Give her compliments about her hands and mouth, moan when she does something you like, DON'T say "what a great bj" afterwards, it sounds bad. Instead, say how good she was, how you loved this or that she did, give her more oral yourself to return the favour and so on.

If she likes it, and you are sure about it, then you can ask her to do it in a nice way: "would you like to ______" (fill in the blanks) and "only do it if you want to, I don't want you to feel pressured". Always ask her afterwards if she liked it, if she enjoys it or if she only does it for you. It may not sound much but it does help a lot and it's reassuring to know that your man cares about you first and puts his pleasure second (even if that's not the case, it at least shows he cares, and this is very important).

If she doesn't enjoy it, have a discussion with her. Ask her if there's anything you can do to make it better for her (trim, shave, do it after a shower, if you should be lying down, sitting or standing up, if she likes swallowing or not, tell her it's okay if she doesn't always swallow as she may have to hear that and might think that it's only good if she swallows). Since she already does it once in a while then she's not 100% against it. Maybe you just need a small breakthrough and find out what it is that makes her avoid it.

[ItsASecret]

Just like others have said you can try replacing the words "blow" "head" or "blow job" with oral. From what I gather she doesn't seem grossed out by it if she is still willing to do it every now and again and still swallows. She may not love it but if she at least says she likes it then you are still in a good position. Personally I do not love giving it but I do like it so I will still agree to some oral action if he asks. I am not much of an initiator so if he does not ask or at least hint towards wanting it I likely will not do anything. As for her not liking oral...its not for everyone, I for one could go without it because it doesn't do a whole lot for me but he loves it so he can do it without asking . You can still give her oral even if she does not ask, if she gets wet then at least there is some sort of pleasure coming out of it.

[Hopeless Dork]

"your the best" would make me personally think of all the other blow jobs you've gotten and the fact that your still thinking about them, comparing them, to be able to qualify me as the best.

You have to be careful of the way you compliment on bj's... your the best bj giver ever... is not exactly a title the typical girl wants on the miss america sash in her mind.

Stick to keeping the comments to the pleasure experienced and not the act itself as a whole, but the little things that make up the entire act. Commenting on how she looks so sexy when she has you in her mouth etc..

The point is to make her feel beautiful, and like a naughty vixen that drives you wild without making her feel like a cheap street walker that is good at her job.

[dude123]

Maybe you should replace the word "bj" with something 'nicer', or describe it to her instead, so she feels that it's not just something mechanical she does that you like. Describing what you want her to do might turn her on.

Give her compliments about her hands and mouth, moan when she does something you like, DON'T say "what a great bj" afterwards, it sounds bad. Instead, say how good she was, how you loved this or that she did, give her more oral yourself to return the favour and so on.

If she likes it, and you are sure about it, then you can ask her to do it in a nice way: "would you like to ______" (fill in the blanks) and "only do it if you want to, I don't want you to feel pressured". Always ask her afterwards if she liked it, if she enjoys it or if she only does it for you. It may not sound much but it does help a lot and it's reassuring to know that your man cares about you first and puts his pleasure second (even if that's not the case, it at least shows he cares, and this is very important).

If she doesn't enjoy it, have a discussion with her. Ask her if there's anything you can do to make it better for her (trim, shave, do it after a shower, if you should be lying down, sitting or standing up, if she likes swallowing or not, tell her it's okay if she doesn't always swallow as she may have to hear that and might think that it's only good if she swallows). Since she already does it once in a while then she's not 100% against it. Maybe you just need a small breakthrough and find out what it is that makes her avoid it.

I dont call it a blowjob to her. She always use the term blowing me herself too.

[dude123]

Maybe you should replace the word "bj" with something 'nicer', or describe it to her instead, so she feels that it's not just something mechanical she does that you like. Describing what you want her to do might turn her on.

Give her compliments about her hands and mouth, moan when she does something you like, DON'T say "what a great bj" afterwards, it sounds bad. Instead, say how good she was, how you loved this or that she did, give her more oral yourself to return the favour and so on.

If she likes it, and you are sure about it, then you can ask her to do it in a nice way: "would you like to ______" (fill in the blanks) and "only do it if you want to, I don't want you to feel pressured". Always ask her afterwards if she liked it, if she enjoys it or if she only does it for you. It may not sound much but it does help a lot and it's reassuring to know that your man cares about you first and puts his pleasure second (even if that's not the case, it at least shows he cares, and this is very important).

If she doesn't enjoy it, have a discussion with her. Ask her if there's anything you can do to make it better for her (trim, shave, do it after a shower, if you should be lying down, sitting or standing up, if she likes swallowing or not, tell her it's okay if she doesn't always swallow as she may have to hear that and might think that it's only good if she swallows). Since she already does it once in a while then she's not 100% against it. Maybe you just need a small breakthrough and find out what it is that makes her avoid it.

I told her early on in the relationship she didnt have to swallow and she insisted, she does it like its nothing. Made me wonder how much she did it in the past lol She has like a perfect technique and doesnt faze her in the least. Never once did she gag or make a face or antyhing. She doesnt go for a drink of water after either. Shes great in that regard. But as for making ti better for her. I shave, i shower alot and have very good hygeine im kind of a neat freak. I always do it how she wants. I asked her if i could stand during the blowjob (cuz thats what i like) and she always sighs and says in an annoyed voice to sit down. She really doesnt do anythign i like sexually. I mean dont get me wrong a bj is a bj it always feels good as does sex, but i never get anythign i want. Maybe cuz i dont ask or cuz im too nice i dunno. Id like to cum on her and never had the balls to. Id like to try titty f-ing and also never had the balls. I'd like standing up bjs and trying new sex positions and she just says no like shes annoyed i asked. I like handjobs and she never gave me one. her blowjobs are super slow too they kinda suck aside from her swallowing. So i dunno, i love her but am i just comepelteyl sexually incompatible with her? I mean none of the things i mentioned are weirdo fetish things. Maybe the tity f-ing is but what guy doestn enjoy that? I think most stuff i mentioned is ordinary. She is so boring with sex. I barely get it that often and barely get bj's as ive mentioned and everything she does is so mechanical and plain. Why does it bother her to give me a standing up bj or to give me a handjob? Those r normal things. She just wants to give me a bj once every 2-3 months and sex once a week and never more. The sex always has to be making out, me eating her out, then missionary and then she finishes on top cuz it makes me last longer. That is it! nothign else.

[sourpuss]

Is there anything about pleasuring her that turns you on? I think that's your problem right there. I've read this whole thread and there's no mention of you pleasuring her, only her doing things for you. Honestly, I wouldn't be too interested in having sex with you either. If it were me, I think I'd be feeling the same way as her, seems like a one-way street. Which could be why sex is what it is with you two now.

[dude123]

She is really dry when we have sex so i go down on her every single time before putitng it in her. Doesnt that count for something? i get really down and dirty too, ive read techniqeus on it and try and see what she responmds to. I know wat makes her moan now. She loves when i start slow and then suck on her clit and put 2 fingers in her and hit the g-spot. She gets so excited and tells me to put it in her. I do this every time we have sex, why cant i get a few bj's a month? And why cant she put some life into it. Like a bj needs change of speeds and varying amounts of suction. She is so boring with it she just puts it in her mouth and go slowly up and down with some slight pressure. Sure i come but its like slow motion its almost a weird feeling. Its nice when they do it slow then work up to really fast and increse the suction and then when ur about to come they go super fast and then stop to let u come. But im not gonna explain that to her, she wont wanna hear it.

[sourpuss]

Sounds like there's just a lot of resentment in this relationship.