[Guest]

I have been in a relationship with a girl I for whom i care deeply for for over a year and, both of us being virgins, are ready to take the next step. She is 22 and a very petite girl with an extremly small opening. She told me she has never been able to fit a tampon inside of her, even when applying lube. I have never been able to fit even a finger inside of her and even when i lightly push my tongue against her she cant take the pain. She is worried that she will never be able to have sex. Any information or help would be much appreciated.

[Guest]

Has she told her gynocologist about this problem? Her build shouldn't have a whole lot to do with her ability to have sex.. especially if it is as painful as you are describing. There is a disorder called vaginismus which presents a lot of the symptoms you are describing. Check this website out: vaginismus.com it has a lot of helpful information. Good luck and I hope everything works out!

[CJT61106]

I have been in a relationship with a girl I for whom i care deeply for for over a year and, both of us being virgins, are ready to take the next step. She is 22 and a very petite girl with an extremly small opening. She told me she has never been able to fit a tampon inside of her, even when applying lube. I have never been able to fit even a finger inside of her and even when i lightly push my tongue against her she cant take the pain. She is worried that she will never be able to have sex. Any information or help would be much appreciated.

Hey I am the same way-I have never worn a tampon and my husband cant get his tounge, finger, nor his penis in me-it's very painful-Im afraid we will never make love-has she considered having her hymen surgically cut-Im seriously thinking about it good luck and let me know if ya'll get this fixed so I can know what to do!

[Irelandlover]

Sometimes it can be down to the fact that she may feel relaxed, but actually isn't relaxed completely, so down there is tense and doesn't open up.

[epsilon]

Hey I am the same way-I have never worn a tampon and my husband cant get his tounge, finger, nor his penis in me-it's very painful-Im afraid we will never make love-has she considered having her hymen surgically cut-Im seriously thinking about it good luck and let me know if ya'll get this fixed so I can know what to do!

This problem is called Vaginismus. My best friend's wife was the same way, they had been married almost a year with no sex. After she got the operation to surgically snip her hymen, they still didn't have sex for a while because it was still painful. After about the third time having sex, her body finally adapted and she started really enjoying it. Now she's fine and they have sex multiple times a week like a normal young married couple, so don't worry, it's a very fixable condition, but definitely talk to your gynecologist about the best way to solve this problem.

[Loris1]

Very frequently this is about her relaxing, but it can also be true that some help is needed. Although I am of average build, my ex, who was petite had to go to a gynocologist and have a very small minor op to get the space bigger, with a few follow up exercises that sound like fun. The op was done in outpatients or GP I cant remember now - anyway its very minor

[babyface]

:-(

I had the same problem...couldn't wear tampons and couldn't even insert finger. It was very thick and feircly attached to the opening where you pee. It turned out to take a while for him to break me and it was very painful. I ended up cutting the bits that mattered myself with scissors, but looking at it you wouldn't be able to tell that entry is even possible now because even though it is split and ripped here and there it is all still there. It made our honeymoon and first couple months extremely disappointing and miserable. We had waited nearly three years to get married and I wanted to please him so much that I toughed out the pain but he could tell It was excruciating and that made him not want to do it at all. I spent the third night of the honeymoon...when it didn't work again..., washing very bloody sheets out in the bathroom sink in the middle of the night. Your honeymoon and first weeks together are supposed to be remembered in a good way. I wish I could just forget mine but I know I never will. I still feel kinda negative and nervous about sex in general now. I would definitely go get it surgically removed if I had known.