[nmbr1]

There is a guy, I guess you can say we've been 'seeing each other' for going on 5 months. In these 5 months, We have had sex EVERY TIME we have seen each other... Actually All But Once; I don't know if I should be happy about this or not

The thing I need help with is.. He likes to give me Oral, ALOT, And for LONG periods of times. Somethimes it feels like FOREVER. Honestly, ITS JUST TOO MUCH.

Every Time we are in the car, Whether it be daylight or night, Whether we are alone or not, He would always ask
me to touch there and let him.. Taste. He even nearly drove off the road a few times. But he still asks me to. And he gets upset when I say No, So I Give In.

I don't know what to do. Am I CRAZY for not wanting this nearly as much as he does? Why does he always want this? PLEASE HELP ME.

[Mes T]

First off do try to hold off on any of this while you're driving... not to sound motherly, but that's a BIG safety hazard for you and the people around you!

Sounds like this guy just has a really high sex drive, and has a fascination with oral in particular. Not a bad thing, unless it becomes TOO much, like in your case. I think you just gotta let him know that the amount he wants it is too much for your comfort level, and could he please cool off a bit and come to some compromise.

Because you can't "give in" indefinitely!

[nmbr1]

Thank You For Responding, You are completely right about the dangers of it, The danger to others. Its not a smart thing to participate in. I appreciate you opening my eyes to that.

It makes me realize just how big this problem really is, And how much I need to say something to him about it. I know that communication is KEY, I was just afraid that.. He wouldn't want to do it anymore Period. But I will definitely use your advice.

Thanks Again

[jns]

Do you climax during his long oral sessions?

[Ashlee T.]

I know it's a "touchy" situation because you're afraid if you stop them they'll take offense, but if you "fake" it to encourage them to stop, then often times they'll think "oh she really likes this" and keep going......but if you don't do ANYTHING, then you're basically doing it for his benefit. I think its a good situation to compromise in, if he loves doing it, let him do it some but learn how to touch his head and say "get up here...." and then do something else other than oral.

And he gets crazy upset when you say no? Hmmm, I'm sorry but I'd have to say he's going to have to "get over it" because he's not always going to get what he wants. Its about compromise.

[Ashlee T.]

Oh and as far as the wanting you to touch yourself and let him taste, I had a guy like this once before too. That part of it sort of turned me on that he was so into tasting me that he actually craved it. It was as much pleasurable for him doing it,then it was for me receiving it. Last time I ran into that fella, (several years later) he actually brought it up again, and said he still craves it at times. We laughed about it. But I think it's just an intense physical connection that you have with some people. And it's a good thing. But you gotta learn how to compromise, and communicate what you like/dont like, etc.

[kygirl]

I agree with BD... I think you should say something. Just figure out a good way to bring it up, and perhaps let him know that you enjoy it but maybe it'd be more special if he didn't do it so often or maybe that you enjoy it but you don't need him to do it everytime but that you appreciate that he's so willing and enjoys it so much? You defniitely can't avoid it forever... And sometimes, all you have to do is say something. Like BD said, if you are acting like you like it hoping he'll stop or not saying anything, perhaps he thinks you enjoy it as much as he does??

[nmbr1]

I do Climax most of the time, And I tell him WHEN because he asks me to tell him. He just keeps going and going and going after I'm DONE and I Don't Understand WHY. And when I don't tell him that I have, It makes things worse because he does it even longer.

[nmbr1]

You Are SO RIGHT, It is about Compromise, And I Haven't said anything in Fear that he would b Offended, But Now I Know I HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING.. AND YESSS He gets upset. I do try to steer him away, Sometimes he would stop and come up but Not Much Longer he is back down there. I Say Things Like, 'Nn, Okay Enough, No More', But It Falls On Deaf Ears...

And About The Touching AND Tasting, I liked it AT FIRST, But if we are headed to His Parents House, It is just NOT RIGHT. If his Aunt is in the car, It is just NOT RIGHT.

Thank You So Much For Your Help. It IS ALL ABOUT COMPROMISE

[Ashlee T.]

Are you sure you're not dating my ex? Sounds EXACTLY like what he used to do. I'm not sure it was a fascination with oral so much as a fascination with the "area"... know what I mean? Because eventually the oral turned to oral + long periods of what seemed like an erotic examination. lol. I'd climax, he'd continue, and continue, and continue......sort of a "too much of a good thing" situation.

Your guy definitely sounds eager to please, which is a great thing, but you're letting him take it too far. See, he probably has no idea you're feeling like you are when he's down there. So you have to communicate. After you climax, take charge, pull him up to you and kiss him etc. After a few times of you taking charge and ending it when you want it ended, surely he'll get it.