[raw_sugar]

Ok here goes!

Everytime my boyfriend tries to get me to cum it just doesnt work. I feel like it feels good, he knows what he doing (massage therapist with a sexual/pleasing his girl obsession...go me!!) and I always feel like i'm about to cum and it just never happens. He told me it should feel like Im going to wet myself and it does but I always end up having to make him stop because it starts to become really uncomfortable/starts to hurt.
I got something called G-spot cream and it does make me more sensitive but often too sensitive so I stopped using it, and I do want to get a g-spot type toy so I can do it myself a few times but that has to wait until payday, but in the mean time I was wondering if there are any tips you lovey ladies can give me. Its really starting to bother me because I feel like im missing out on something awesome....plus I love pleasing my man and it kinda bothers him.

Thanks for your time
-Nicole

[sungem77]

first of all what are the ways in which he tries to make you come. oral, intercourse, manual. are you using a variety of positions and methods?
you might want to try pulling back a little in terms of the pressure he's using especially as you get closer to the feeling that you might be on the verge of coming. keep doing that until you lose control. that helps me when i feel like i'm getting too much stimulation.

[Rediscovered]

It could be that he is putting too much pressure on your sensitive spot--

I know for me, a more "generalized" touching of that area (two fingers versus one, or better yet, a penis) does more to bring me to orgasm than localized pressure.

[A Dying Breed]

At least in my experience in sex with women, usually teasing drives her most wild. If he is putting constant pressure on your clitoris/ g-spot, it might be too uncomfortable for you. Try getting him to tease (taking softer strokes, only briefly stimulating you before venturing to other parts of your body and repeatedly coming back, but not long enough for you to fully enjoy it).

However, orgasms are as much a mental thing as they are physical. Sometimes people put to much pressure on themselves or sex and end up not being able to orgasm.

Make sure that you feel open and secure with your partner, and don't feel like you have to orgasm during sex.

Orgasms should be a nice bi-product of sex, not the goal.

[shaunzie89]

Don't feel bad, I've never had a g-spot orgasm either. The same thing happens with me too.

[pittsburgh44]

This WILL help.......


Lay down towels and tell him to try his best, the whole "feeling like you're going to pee thing usually puts a halt on everything the first couple times", you have to get in your mind that (which is why you should cover everything with towels, turn lights down and relax) if you pee you pee, no biggie, relax and have fun.

after you have your first real g spot experience with him, there will be NO more hangups, i promise :-)

[stressed]

Don't feel bad, I've never had a g-spot orgasm either. The same thing happens with me too.

Same problem here. I actually think we're doomed to never have one of those. Too sad.

[pittsburgh44]

JUST a mental thing, being able to allow your body to relax completely isn't as easy as it sounds.......whatever you have to do to accomplish this this first time, DO IT, after that, it will be very easy....trust me on the towels, it'll help!

[shaunzie89]

Same problem here. I actually think we're doomed to never have one of those. Too sad.

Lol. Yeah, its very frustrating to me. I know the goal of sex isn't to just have an orgasm. But my fiance always gets off and then I just have to wait until the next time to try and figure out how it works. We've gotten a little more experimental lately but still not much luck.