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  • ^_^
    Junior Member
    • May 2010
    • 1

    are my orgasms "wrong"? :(

    Okay well when I orgasm, instead of feeling like how its always described (loads of contractions, one big point, etc.) I tend to get what I'd call a "gentle" orgasm. It's not as intense as its described and there aren't many contractions but it's really nice and I enjoy it and to me it's satisfying. It goes on longer than they're normally described as well.

    It's just from what I've read it's making me feel like these aren't good enough and they're not normal :/

    Is this like fine for me or am I doing something wrong?

    Thanks (:
  • maverick
    Senior Member
    • Dec 2009
    • 130

    First welcome to the forum.

    You are normal. Women's orgasms are complex things. They vary from time-to-time and person-to-person. They can be "little" one time and "large" the next. Even the same two partners (or solo), performing basically the same act will differ sometimes. I think that as you mature sexually that you will find ways that you can increase your pleasure. Sometimes this happens by accident. You say that you find you orgasms "satisfying" and that's the main thing. Enjoy, explore, learn about yourself. That's the way it happens for most everyone.

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    • shaunzie89
      Member
      • Apr 2010
      • 42

      Totally normal. Don't worry about it at all. I've always believed that every orgasm is different. Sometimes I'll have crazy, out of this world orgasms that go on forever. Then sometimes I'll have tiny ones that don't last for very long. It just depends.

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      • LilahX
        Veteran Member
        • Jan 2010
        • 291

        If you're happy and satisfied, just enjoy!!

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        • MoonBunny
          Junior Member
          • May 2010
          • 7

          I think its normal. As it is nearly the same for me.

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          • jeananne
            Junior Member
            • Mar 2010
            • 5

            There are times I have crazy lustful explosive climaxes.But the ones I love the most are the deep emotional ones that touch that inner being and lingers so beautifully,leaves your body quivering for what seems an hour.I am blessed to have a partner that more or less pratices trantex,so then he just wants to gently hold and lightly touch me.He can just through his touch,can make me climax by touching my arm,hand,or by kissing me.
            Just give yourself time,explore and Foreplay,foreplay,foreplay !!!! and appreciate each others body.

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            • jeananne
              Junior Member
              • Mar 2010
              • 5

              Correction....I meant "tantric". You can get some wonderful ideas from sites googling that... think white lotus might be one.......Enjoy!!!!

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              • May2may
                Junior Member
                • May 2010
                • 5

                I have thought the same thing sometimes...i dont have that big "o" but it feels really good an i dont necessarily climax...or peek per say but its satisfyin enough to where i get too senstive to continue. Although if u haven experienced that earth shattering climax, u are missin out!! I have experienced this w myself as well as my partner. It does differ from time to time...as far as female ejaculation, is wen its supposedly a great orgasm, i ahve experienced it either way. My suggestion is to talk to ur partner bout this, let him kno that wats goin on is good enough for u but u would like to see if yall could reach that point. Its an amazin emotional experience as well as a physical ecstacy. If u dont kno whre ur g spot is, this could make it difficult to reach this climax...it is located inside ur vaginal openin around an 1-3 deep but to front of ur vaginal walls, its spongier than the rest of ur wall. This is where explorin personally can b benificial...once u find it u will b amazed on the intensity of an orgasm and or ejaculation. Again i have had very intense ones w out ejaculation...but i can tell ya, ur partner will b quite proud of himself to see u "squirt" which gives u some more satisfaction as well. There is nothing wrong w wats goin on w u if its good enough to u. There is no right or wrong way to orgasm...as it varies from woman to woman. But there is a couple pointers if u would like to try to experience how mind blowing sex can b. u'll b beggin for more and so will he...I guess actually seein a result gives them a sense of pride. An then work on the multiples...which may b kinda wat ur goin through only it can b very intense. i find also w alot of foreplay...gettin really horny before actually intercourse can intensify ur orgasms as well

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