[emptypea2001]

I discovered yesterday that my wife watched porn while masturbating with her vibrator and dildo when I was at work. I know where she keeps the toys and can tell when they have been used; I know she does this occasionally, but it always arouses me when I know specifically when she is up to this. I had to masturbate immediately several times in the day after.
Knowing that she masturbates is certainly not new to me, but what blew me away was that later in the evening, I could not find a specific remote control for the TV. I finally found it in a drawer where we keep the X videos. Since I usually run the remotes (we have 3), she obviously believed that this one was associated with the dvd player and wouldn't normally be on the nightstand....BUSTED!
So, my question is this: She has always "put up with" occasionally watching a porn tape before sex, only because "I like to". She has always stated that women don't get into that and it is really disgusting and not romantic. Now I find that she watches while masturbating?? Input ladies...?????

[sassi_classi]

It could be that after watching them with you after awhile she started to enjoy them herself so now she watches them when she is in need and alone. but if you want to know if she enjoys them without asking her. turn one on and start havinb sex but make sure she is watching the movie at all times. you will be able to tell how much she likes it by what her body does. thats what me and my fiancee did and though i feel the same way she does about it ironically i really got off to it while having sex with him. other than that i hate it there so fack and staged.

[emptypea2001]

Thanks sassi_, your comment really makes me remember a couple of times we watched together. I would be ready and starting to kiss and touch her but her gaze remained intent on the screen. I also noted when I touched her clit it was huge and she was already very wet. That being said, maybe for her (and you and probably many others) it is the idea of what you are watching that is repulsive, but the experience of it stimulates at a baser level. For me, it is a more direct channel to the intensity; I guess a more efficient means of reaching an intense orgasm - it shouldn't surprise me that she uses it the same way.

[Phoebee]

Women have ideas that porn is bad (And lets face it some really IS degrading and gross) so when we do watch or masturbate its pretty private. What I would suggest is less masturbation (alone at least) and more sex together. I think it might be of value ot find out what kind of porn she enjoys and maybe get things that both of you can enjoy together.

[emptypea2001]

Thanks Phoebee. Very true, most porn is exactly disgusting and gross to me too. For me, it is always about finding the tasteful yet explicit. The more 'real' the responses of the women, the more it gets to me. This is a very elusive area that I haven't had a lot of luck finding. The best things seem to be amatuer women who are filmed masturbating in a private and safe place - you can't fake a real orgasm.

[Cheyenne]

I agree with phoebee-some porn can be dirty and nasty, just like some of it is with men. Some women get turned by doing it themselevs. Frankly, we women know more about our bodies than anyone could. I have done this many times, and could bring myself closer to an orgasm better and quicker than any other person. Some women find that masturbating relases tension and stress. Your wife may want to feel relaxed or just feel good.