I've only been with my fiance for 7 months, but he's the perfect guy for me. Our relationship isn't perfect but it's by far the best one i've ever been in, except when it comes to sex. Our sex life is horrible! He works on an oil rig and is gone 7 days and home 7 days so I'm constatnly needing to sqeeze everything into one week (while he's at work i'm lucky to talk to him 15min a day) We've both had our share of sexual parnters and i'm very comfortable with my body and very open to new things and generally not shy when it comes to sex, i've also never had a problem with my libido, acheiving an orgasm or being sexually frustrated.
My fiance is a very man's man who likes to say he's not like any other guys which I thought was a boost but its true, porn does nothing for him (which I sometimes like to watch with my partner to get the mood going) he also will have nothing to do with anal, isn't very good with his hands or mouth and has this little control issue which drives me nuts; he likes to with hold sex from me if i'm really into it and he's not (he thinks its some sort of game, but it just hurts my feelings) He's better about that now then in the past but I think more because i've developed a mental block against getting horny so the majority of the time I let him start everything.
He also is a 30 sec man, even with a condom it lasts less than 3 min. He has gotten better about "helping me out" after he comes (he goes limp almost immeditely) but I do most of the work, I've gotten used to it and so I dont' mind too much cause at least I get a release but it's starting to make him feel "less of a man". We have almost no foreplay because that makes him cum even faster and he's only gotten me off once by eating me out. I try to give him little pointers but he just doesn't really listen to them. I love him so much and most of the time I can just put this on the back burner but occasionally we both get extremely frustrated by it and I'm at a loss of what to do. I'm scared the longer it goes on the more it will start affecting more aspects of our relationship.
My fiance is a very man's man who likes to say he's not like any other guys which I thought was a boost but its true, porn does nothing for him (which I sometimes like to watch with my partner to get the mood going) he also will have nothing to do with anal, isn't very good with his hands or mouth and has this little control issue which drives me nuts; he likes to with hold sex from me if i'm really into it and he's not (he thinks its some sort of game, but it just hurts my feelings) He's better about that now then in the past but I think more because i've developed a mental block against getting horny so the majority of the time I let him start everything.
He also is a 30 sec man, even with a condom it lasts less than 3 min. He has gotten better about "helping me out" after he comes (he goes limp almost immeditely) but I do most of the work, I've gotten used to it and so I dont' mind too much cause at least I get a release but it's starting to make him feel "less of a man". We have almost no foreplay because that makes him cum even faster and he's only gotten me off once by eating me out. I try to give him little pointers but he just doesn't really listen to them. I love him so much and most of the time I can just put this on the back burner but occasionally we both get extremely frustrated by it and I'm at a loss of what to do. I'm scared the longer it goes on the more it will start affecting more aspects of our relationship.
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