[Miss hellen-louise]

i'm almost 19 ans my partner of 2 yrs has developed an over active sex drive in the first 6months of our relationship.

To be honest i have a high sex drive but mine can be ignored he doesnt sleep til 5am and then has to drive to work at 7am and its dangerous.

I have asked him were it came from he said he has never had it with anybody else just me maybe i'm more attractive but its so difficult.

Its not like i cant keep up with him because normally its me wanting to go all day and night i can so keep up. But his sex drive happens as we lie down to sleep everytime. I find my self isolating him(meaning i dont kiss touch barely hug him) it makes me feel so alone and i love the guy so much we are planning a wedding but this problem is making sex a chore. We have to have sex every 3 days to keep it under contol but sometimes thats not good enough.

Also its getting so bad not that i'm hating sex with him and and he's breaking ym trust by doing things when i sleep things i wish not to disclose but he's ruining our happy life its getting to be the biggest problem in our relstion ship and he's slowly pushing me away and making me lose the attraction i once had to him



thanks in advance please i'm on the edge of a knife with this.

Hellen x

[LanaBear]

Sex every 3 days is not an overactive sex drive, IMO... If it was up to you, how often would you want to have sex?

[Fallen1]

Sex every 3 days is not an overactive sex drive, IMO...

Agreed.

[sourpuss]

Every three days is pretty healthy in my opinion.

[maverick]

A couple of times a week (every three days or so) is about the norm for couples that have been married for several years. At 19 years old once every day and twice on Sunday's sounds about right. I don't think the issue is with your BF, I think that it is with you. If you have discovered that you are not compatible sexually, you should not be considering marriage. It will just lead to a miserable life where you eventually push him to fulfil his needs outside of marriage.

[WildChild]

Yikes, I could do with 3 times a day and I'm over 50. At your age I would wear my guy out - 5 or 6 times in a day and a night. Then we might take a break of a day or two, although I would have been up for at least once the next day.
Hate to break it to you darlin' but if you are finding once every three days excessive and if you can "ignore" your sex drive, you don't have a high sex drive, but it's nice that you have the idea of having one. Perhaps we can help you acquire one?

Its all about keeping it juicy, making everything throughout your day a form of foreplay and keeping yourself at a low level of arousal all the time. I think of it as being on simmer. All the little things add up, for example, wearing clothing that makes you feel good, not because it's fashionable but because you love the color, texture, the way the fabirc feels against your skin and how the garment fits your body. If you are in your own place you din't have to have expensive, fancy stuff but select things that you feel good having around. I love thrift stores, I'll buy A plate just because I fall for the color or shape and know I will enjoy using it. Invest in good high count sheets that feel good against your skin, thick absorbent towels - you don't need a lot - you can only use one at a time.

Keep fresh flowers in your home and soothing music - no shoes indoors, they track in dirt an your home should be a sacred place. All this is part of staying in touch with your sensuality. When you eat, don't just put stuff in your mouth, chew it and swallow it. Experience it, really taste it, feel it and appreciate it. Bless every glass of water you drink, say thank you. Be aware of colors, textures, feeling, lighting, in everything you do. Go without as often as you can; without shoes, bra, underwear - especially undies, no one but you has to know. Forget panty hose and get a garter and stockings.

Now on to your biggest sexual center, your mind. Keeping it juicy is about attitude. Think sensuous throughout your day. Take time to stretch - not an awkward shrug, but like a cat. Be body aware, don't just smear on some chapstick, glide it, lick your lips. Think about touching and being touched. I've no doubt that in various work situations I've left people wondering because while I'm working, talking to people, going about my day, part of my mind is thinking about the lingering feel of a kiss, touch or just plain f-ing (don't over do and have an accident). It takes some time but you can bring yourself to a point where you can be ready pretty much any time, any place. Of course having a caring, sensuous man in your life can make this infinitely easier and more fun.

[Hopeless Dork]

I'm wondering if the every 3 days is a typo? Thats a couple times a week as the others have stated, its actually not an overdrive. Couples in healthy sexual relationships vary from 3-5 days a week on average and you guys are far below that if the every 3 days is accurate. Hardly seems like he has a drive? But if you don't want sex with him, him wanting even one day a month would seem like an 'overdrive'.

Do you enjoy the sex you have with him? Do you have orgasms? Do you enjoy sexual feelings in general? Do you masturbate or experience orgasm at all? Is he giving you foreplay and trying to please you?

[Olympia]

In agreement with posts.
Like minds with WC.
All Sensory. Heighten all your senses. You and what is around you.
Feel sexy, be comfortable in your sexuality.

[Miss hellen-louise]

3 days isnt a typo but we have a vry healthy sex life we have alot of sex but he loses sleep because he beccomes errect at night when he cant do anything because he's shattered he constantly is errect everymorning every night and we have sex most days but its still a problem when i'm shattered from work and we are just to tired it doesn't go down or anything he has to wait til he is soo tired he cant stay awake any more i dont know what to do and even he knows there is something going on,

[sourpuss]

If you're both too tired, why doesn't he just have a wank and go to sleep?