[englishlionheart]

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share my problem with you all and hope that you can help me in any way possible. My problem is pretty laughable and trust me i feel quite embarrased even sharing it on a forum!! But at the same time if i dont ask for help i wont get it.

Basically im 20 years old have had sex with 4 different women but each time i have asked the woman to insert my penis into their vagina. This is simply because i have no idea whatsoever how to correctly insert my penis (this includes the angle, the correct spot, everything!). I basically ask the women to do it out of fear and it really is affecting my sex life.

If theres anyone out there that can take my problem seriously and give me any tips whatsoever or any sources that will help me get confident in inserting my penis correctly i would be extremely grateful.


Many thanks for hearing me out,


Mark

[Ashlee T.]

Mark, is the problem that you don't know where to insert it? Because if a woman is wet (and if she's not you shouldn't be inserting it anyway), there is no real perfect technique to insertion. Normally, a guy will get the girl very wet, then slide it into her slowly. Once inside her and once his penis becomes lubricated, then the action starts.

Not laughable at all. We all have our insecurities. But don't make a big deal out of something that's not....in other words, don't sweat the small stuff. If you're unfamiliar with the vagina and are insecure that you might try to push yourself into the wrong spot, then prior to sex get down there and get familiar with her area whether during fingering or oral. I had a guy who just loved getting down there and watching his fingers go inside me. Needless to say he learned every inch of me through observation....and trust me it was a huge advantage to our sex drive. So get down there, get familiar, get her all wet, then slide yourself in.....it's easy and for the woman, that initial easing in feels SO good!! Don't ask the girls to do it themselves anymore.....say nothing, and give it a shot. I think you'll love the feeling you have when you do it yourself.

[englishlionheart]

Yes the problem is i dont know where to insert it

Thank you for your brilliant reply there, that has made me feel a helluva' lot better! I guess i've just gotta give it a go, because if i dont the problem will just get worse

Honestly though, thank you very much for that reply. As a woman you have been a lot more helpful than the men who have just laughed at me! I've just gotta muster up some confidence and try. The thing i worry about is if im there for ages doing it and looking like a fool! But if their really wet im guessing it's a lot easier!

Thank you once again!

[Olympia]

If you are concerned.... State that you want her to guide it in, that just watching is a total turn on! That way, if you are watching intently, you will know and not appear clumsy/obvious..
Building confidence for yourself as well as making you and her feel comfortable.
As BD stated, lubrication is a must and a definate X marks the spot!

[Ashlee T.]

Trust me, she's not going to let you fumble around down there forever. First off, that won't happen. And second, anytime I've ever been with a guy and lets just say he was super excited and eager and pushing on the wrong spot, I'd just reach my hand down there and move it where it needed to be. As long as you know the different between the vagina and the anus....you should be fine.

[maverick]

The men that laughed at you, no doubt have had the exact same problem. It's a guy's way of acting superior. This problem has plagued men since Eve was put on this earth, no doubt. Penetration with a new partner can be like trying to drive a spike in a raliroad tie. Sans hammer, of course.

As stated above, lots of foreplay is always a good tactic. Plant your face between her legs and get to know her nether reigons. Explore with your tongue and fingers. Feel free to part her outer lips a bit with your fingers while doing so. She will likely enjoy this as much as you will enjoy the view. Once she is quite wet, don't attack her vagina as if it were the aforementioned railroad tie. Let your penis bend at a downward angle and slide the tip of it up and down between her legs letting it slide over her lips. Then do the same thing with the underside of the shaft of your penis (assuming missionary position). Let the tip slide ever lower. If she has not grabbed it by now to help it find a home or it has not slid in natrually, just use your hand to guide your penis up and down over her outer lips until you feel the opening. You won't appear clumsy doing it this way and it all becomes part of the teasing during foreplay.

[cinnamonheart88]

aw thats okay I have insecurities when it comes to sex too... everyone does.. anyway... I can understand not really knowing because womens private areas are known to be complicated and tricky lol... totally not as straight forward as mens... however, when it comes to inserting its reallllyyy not hard... just stick it in lol... you'll see once you do it that its not hard... the only thing is that because a penis usually sticks straight up, you may have to bend it a bit to lower it in... and make sure her hips are a bit elevated... also too if you start to make the motion to put it in she will prolly get into a position that makes it easy to enter.. if shes into having sex at that time... seriously it may seem like a big deal now but once you do it you'll be like "wow why was I so worried!?" lol! goodluck!!

[englishlionheart]

Thank you so, so, so, so much to every single one of you who replied to this. You've all been a great help and i appreciate you not laughing and taking me seriously. I'm going to get some confidence in this area from somewhere and you've all helped me rest that little bit easier.

Thank you all very much :-)

[jns]

If you look up vagina in Wikipedia, you can look at a picture that will give you information on a woman's privates. You can see the vagina is in the lower part of the vulva.

As for locating the vagina on your own, in missionary position, try gently sliding your upward erection over her clitoris and between her labia with a slight amount of pressure toward her. As you slide it down, note where it dips in slightly. Then start from the butt with a downward angled penis and slide upward to the same place where the head dipped in. It should dip in again. You are now at the right place and with the right angle if you slide your hips down slightly, but keep the head in the same place.

Assuming she is lubricated enough, slowly start pushing in. Lubricate more if she needs lubrication. Move your erection up and down slowly to lubricate the head and to find the exact entrance, then make shallow strokes until you are fully lubricated. Stop and reposition if she has any discomfort. Have her help you if necessary. Good luck.