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It was ridiculous. I got the feeling he saw it as a kind of contest- who could last the longest. I finally said, I'm tired of this and he told me he so glad as he was absolutely unable to continue. WT? It was stupid. I don't know how he kept going so long - we did have a couple bathroom/drink breaks. Oh and that required no extra lube but it got down right boring. -
I would have to say I have been with a man that lasted less than a minute and with my current BF it can last about 1 hour. This took alot of practice with my current BF when we first started having sex he would last about 5 minutes and be done. We then started adding more foreplay into our sex life as well as oral sex. I would bring him close to orgasm and stop for a couple minutes and make out and then start stimulating him again. We have also had him orgasm before we have intercourse and the second round last alot longer. I enjoy it both ways short and quick and long slow gently sex. I would not worry about it so much. Enjoy yourself and have fun.Comment
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That is exactly what my gf and I do, and the results are exactly what you describe!You could possibly try what is called "gentle intercourse" which just means you only do enough thrusting to keep hard, but otherwise, there is a lot of stillness while still continuing to caress and kiss each other. My lover and I do this a lot and I cannot tell you how much better my orgasms feel when they finally do come. Absolutely mind-numbing, lol.
SHE is the one who often has "female PE" though; she will orgasm at the first touch of my penis to her opening, and the contractions prevent me from entering!
After that first one though, she relaxes just enough... and she loves it when we can spend a couple hours making love, although we often have a bottle of wine beside the bed and take short breaks.
Or not even breaks, if she is sitting facing me.Comment
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I've had both extremes. My ex husband was a '30 second wonder' (I'm not kidding, I'd count in my head and it rarely got past 30 seconds in the last decade or so of our marriage). But I've been lucky to have two guys who were real 'stayers' and will happily pleasure me with penetration for an hour or more which has me in mindblowing pleasure for just about the whole time. I'm not talking mad pumping like a jackhammer (altho I do like that towards the end), but different paces, different positions.
Of course there's been guys who are 'in between' but I have to say that the two who had the stamina were also the ones who had the technique and knowledge and care factor - and they are both in their 40s.
If 'friction' is worrying you, use heaps of lube. Never be without it is is my motto.Comment
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