[holetoledo]

Oh gosh, my boyfriend gets so frustrated and says "it's like a roller coaster down there" when he goes down on me but I can't help it! It feels so good and I writhe everywhere and I'm just super sensitive. Does anyone have any advice on how to hold the still so I don't give the guy whiplash? lol

[SaharaJim]

The two of you need to communicate. He needs to know that "feels good" is excellant- feels so good that I have to move away ISNT! So...perhaps a hand on his arm or cheek gently squeezing will tell him when to go harder and when to "ease up". Plus as the act gets more "normal" for the two of you your "sensitivity" will go down a little so that you don't "crawl out of your skin". Let him enjoy the "ego moment" of knowing that he is SO GOOD that you can't stand it ...then let him know that if he wants you to orgasm he has to keep the stimulation level at a level you can endure and enjoy it. Think o how much fun it will be to find the "perfect" level. ;o)

[rcoreyus]

Can you arrange so you are on top and can adjust your position?

[jns]

Maybe as fun as oral is, he should give you pleasure mostly with his hands. With hands, even if you are moving around, he can follow your movements and not lose contact. For super sensitivity, is he doing direct stimulation or indirect? When you writhe around, can he still get you to orgasm?

[holetoledo]

Maybe as fun as oral is, he should give you pleasure mostly with his hands. With hands, even if you are moving around, he can follow your movements and not lose contact. For super sensitivity, is he doing direct stimulation or indirect? When you writhe around, can he still get you to orgasm?

Gosh I really don't know about direct/indirect, it feels like his tongue is EVERYWHERE. lol. And I'm not quite sure if I orgasm during it, I know it feels really good but it doesn't feel like I hit a pinnacle. Probably because I'm too busy squirming. I guess that's a no.

[Mochajava]

I used to be the same way. Tell him to go slow and be gentle. If he's just flicking his tongue constantly at your clit it is going to drive you a bit nuts lol. Perhaps considering bring a toy into the picture. I find that vibrators can numb the clit a little so you won't be so sensitive when you licks you. Also, I find it a lot easier to control myself if I am on top with my legs spread wide.

[pretzel]

edit,

decided post was not in good taste.

sorry,

[LanaBear]

lol - I guess I'm confused as to what the problem is... IMO, being an "active" participant would be a huge turn on. I know it is for my hubby. I cannot stay still, I'm trying to move closer arching myself into him, get further away, etc. I think if I laid there, legs apart, saying "Feels good, hun" it would be kind of a turn off. Unless, of course, he holds me down and says "You move, I stop", I whimper myself into bliss, lol.

[Gregs Baby]

lol you can either moan,bite on to a pillow or sqeeze something really tight lol cause i know how it is to try and stay still. haha

[PandaPaws]

The two of you need to communicate. He needs to know that "feels good" is excellant- feels so good that I have to move away ISNT! So...perhaps a hand on his arm or cheek gently squeezing will tell him when to go harder and when to "ease up". Plus as the act gets more "normal" for the two of you your "sensitivity" will go down a little so that you don't "crawl out of your skin". Let him enjoy the "ego moment" of knowing that he is SO GOOD that you can't stand it ...then let him know that if he wants you to orgasm he has to keep the stimulation level at a level you can endure and enjoy it. Think o how much fun it will be to find the "perfect" level. ;o)

This. I really have a problem with squirming too. My bf will hold my legs down sometimes. I have learned not to squeeze his head. I DO notice though, that if he hasn't fingered or gone down on me in a while, it is SUPER sensitive and I can barely take it - even if we've had sex more recently, it's just different stimulation. So, you two should practice more .
I've yet to figure out what my "perfect" level is though...