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  • Van
    Member
    • Feb 2010
    • 19

    Being on top

    I figured this might be a good conversation since I can't really find a thread for it.

    First off let me say.... I am new to sex (am legal age to be clear) so hearing other people's opinions I find really helpful. Honestly I myself am having difficulty with this so I figured this (website) might be the best place to ask openly to woman. So here it is.
    Basically hearing the words "on top" the questions come to mind....
    -What are the best positions for being on top?
    -Techniques? I have had a few friends mention something called "pogo" and "thrust"
    -Does his size matter at all when it comes to "being on top" ex:coming out a lot.
  • p3375
    Veteran Member
    • Jan 2010
    • 375

    Van:
    On top gives a woman more control of the pace and depth. There are plenty of variations, but for now I'd stick to the basics - straddle your guy and ease down onto him. You can stay sitting up or lean forward or whatever. For me, the guy goes in deeper if I'm sitting up, so go slow 'til you've figured out how you two fit together. Yes, he can slip out occasionally, depending on how you are moving. But it's easy and quick to just slip him back in.
    I think you should just try it a bit without overthinking things. Communicate, play, tell your guy what works for you and what doesn't. Find out what he likes and what he doesn't. Don't be afraid to experiment - play and have fun.
    Pat

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      Van, I am not a woman, but I am going to chime in. The control of being on top is not only physical, but also psychological. The person on top controls the intimacy of the actions. She lets her SO see only what she wants to. Control of the pace, so whether he can reach climax or not. The angle and depth of penetration, for her own pleasure. Whether to kiss or not. Whether he can get out of that position, because he has to push her off, if he can, if he wants to get to a more equal position without her allowing it. All of these add to psychological control of the situation.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

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      • kieran
        Member
        • Aug 2010
        • 11

        van

        of course size matters, not been smart if you sit on a 5 inch and then a 10 inch yes you would know which is best
        i love my wife on to as you can drive in into her hard and she can go like mad on you a lot of husband and wifes
        come in this way of making love

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        • ItsASecret
          APRIL 2011 POSTER OF THE MONTH
          • Apr 2009
          • 3721

          My bf is just over 7 inches and I cannot sit flat on him due to his penis pushing against my cervix so in that sense size does matter. I am one of the women that need to lean forward a bit in order to make it more comfortable. He enjoys the position because he can just lay back and enjoy, myself on the other hand not so much. For me personally it does not do much stimulation wise to lead anywhere to an orgasm but it still does feel good. For the women and being in control it is very much true, we do control how deep, how fast, and at what angle everything happens at. It is a good visual for him but if you are a woman like me and are self conscious then the position of exposure is not exactly too great.
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          • archrival
            Member
            • Aug 2010
            • 11

            I often grab my wife at the waist and move her vigourously back and forth with everything Ive got.A powerful orgasm ensues-for her that is.

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            • Texasred
              Veteran Member
              • Oct 2009
              • 1216

              Originally posted by archrival
              I often grab my wife at the waist and move her vigourously back and forth with everything Ive got.A powerful orgasm ensues-for her that is.
              Same here: my gf loves it when I do that!

              Variations of woman-on-top include with man seated upright on a chair or the edge of the bed, or with him reclining on a stack of pillows; I like this last one because it puts her breasts near my lips...
              I also enjoy the view very very much, and being able to kiss during, something we can't do in the missionary position because of the difference in our heights - I'm a bit over a foot taller than her.

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