[Depressedboy]

Ok, i asked a question which really helped me out and thanks alot to those who did help me and now i sat down with my Love and talked and, basicly shes depressed and both of us need help, were both still virgins and our Relationship is sweet and Beautiful like Little Kids in Love =).


I dont masturbate much cause i control myself, my sex drive is very active, hers is too she masturbates alot using Vibrators and Rubbing herself on Soft fabric like Pilows etc, we both will stay Virgins till Mariage cause somehow we both think its right hehe.

So everything sounds perfect right now..the problem is were afraid that our Intimacy (sex) wont be what we expect...shes depressed cause she wants ME to pleasure her, cause she wants me to do everything to her etc, however all over the world, people say, Men arent able to Pleasure women like when they Use Vibrators, or cause Men arent as Soft as Pillows etc...

True our Love will make everything better but, whats bothering her is that i mean...nothing will ever be able to compare to the kind of Pleasure and Orgasm she has with herself (Vibrator,Rubbing etc)

So were both desperate...were depressed we cant sleep, were basicly going crazy, we dont even know if our Sex will be AS GOOD as the things she does so...


I really wanna help her i really hope i get some serious advice cause I Love her and she really needs it, i know i can pleasure her but yeah shes just Scared and Psyced about all this just like i am..


Please Help anyone =(

[Hopeless Dork]

I'm not sure where you are getting your info... but its not widely believed that pillows and vibrators are prefered above men. There are lots of jokes about dildos and vibrators and pickles and coffee makers being better than men... but they are jokes, like blonde jokes -- some may be true for some people , but not many and definitely not most.

Women tend to enjoy the intimacy aspects of sex the most. The closeness, the touching, the kissing... you can't get either of those things from a pillow or a dildo. You are presenting the same question in a different way, making the worries hers instead of your own... but the answer is the same. There is nothing for either of you to worry about.

A woman that is orgasmic and masturbates is far more easy to please sexually, especially if she is open with what feels good, shows you... tells you... than a woman that has never orgasm'd , never masturbated.

You guys are thinking you have some hill to climb because she orgasms already, and worrying sex wont match it... but you'd have a MUCH greater hill to climb if she didn't orgasm, didn't masturbate, didn't have cravings to feel good down there and didn't know what she liked.

[jns]

What is your timetable as far as getting married? Are you and your gf willing to masturbate each other?

[archrival]

It appears your heavy petting is making you desperate for sexual fullfillment.This is not happening because you wisely chose to remain virgins until marriage.Throw out the toys and pillows and try not to get too intimate.Dont tease the body into thinking its ready for sex when its not

[Texasred]

...the problem is were afraid that our Intimacy (sex) wont be what we expect...shes depressed cause she wants ME to pleasure her, cause she wants me to do everything to her etc, however all over the world, people say, Men arent able to Pleasure women like when they Use Vibrators, or cause Men arent as Soft as Pillows etc...

... whats bothering her is that i mean...nothing will ever be able to compare to the kind of Pleasure and Orgasm she has with herself (Vibrator,Rubbing etc)

So were both desperate...were depressed we cant sleep, were basicly going crazy, we dont even know if our Sex will be AS GOOD as the things she does so...


....shes just Scared and Psyced about all this just like i am..

It almost sounds like you're as "psyched" about this as she is, but it's important for you both to know that the physical sensations of sex, while important!, are only a part of what you'll experience, and that the feelings of intimacy, of being "close" (for lack of a better word) to someone you love, are a very large part of the pleasure of lovemaking.
It's good that she knows how to bring herself to orgasm, and you should ask her to show you how it's done, and to allow you to do it: I promise you, you'll enjoy it very very nearly as much as she does! The nice part is you can do this together and still remain virgins, since that is important to you.
Then when you do lose your virginity, it won't be a completely confusing experience!
Best wishes,
- TR