[qua]

Just been to see my bf and after 2 weeks of no sex I was expecting something great
A minute in I was promised hot sex...5 mintues later it was over, very uneventful and not hot, he then got up and got dressed.
Not impressed!!

We're 20 I dont want to slip in to this routine just yet!

Needed to rant!

[sourpuss]

What did you say to him? What was his excuse? Is sex with him usually like this?

[Texinator]

Just been to see my bf and after 2 weeks of no sex I was expecting something great
A minute in I was promised hot sex...5 mintues later it was over, very uneventful and not hot, he then got up and got dressed.
Not impressed!!

We're 20 I dont want to slip in to this routine just yet!

Needed to rant!

Maybe he meant hot sex for himself? Some people think sex is all about getting themselves an orgasm and they don't care too much about how their partner feels. Did you orgasm?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Pretty sure you mentioned missing him, and missing the connection and there he probably stated that promise...

A man, 2 weeks, no sex, there she is, selfish. I'd say he purely, did as Tex stated, started and selfishly experienced his own feelings, forgetting yours, orgasmed and got up...

There, I agree, at least he could have held you, kissed you, said he was sorry, got carried away, missed you... later babe it's your turn, perhaps you'd have forgiven huh.

[shyone99]

I know that with my bf, that if we don't have sex for a while he needs to build his endurance back up. So being a quick trigger wouldn't surprise me after two weeks. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean he shouldn't have thought of your needs as well and maybe gave you some great oral and or foreplay.

[Texinator]

HOWEVER, that doesn't mean he shouldn't have thought of your needs as well and maybe gave you some great oral and or foreplay.

Exactly. It shouldn't matter much even if a guy can't last more than ten seconds. Sex doesn't have to consist purely of intercourse, and many women have a difficult time achieving orgasm like that anyway. So he should first spend some time pleasing her, touching, kissing, and licking, and once she's had a few good orgasms, Mr. Hair Trigger can go and have his fun.

[Hooster]

You must all be ladies since you seem quite ignorant about how a mans body works. Firstly, never ever expect anything great after 2 weeks of no sex! Unless he has been masturbating a lot he will be very horny and it WILL be over fast, sorry but that is a fact of life. Just take the time to chill out for an hour or so while he gets his strength back and THEN he will be able to make love to you in a way that makes you happy, at least he should be able to do that.

So what is the lesson? Don't let him get up and get dressed after giving you mediocre sex! Tell him your not satisfied. YES, actually tell him that. Believe it or not he may not understand that unless he is told if he is inexperienced. Then tell him you are going to give him another chance when he has been able to rest for a bit. You will both be very pleased at the result.

I have had a similar experience when I was in my twenties. A girl stayed at my place and I had been dreaming of sex with her for months. When it finally happened it was the wham bam, than you man type of thing, leaving her furious. She did have the patience to give me a second chance though and we had some of the best sex ever during the week she stayed with me. The kind of any position, anywhere in the house sex that made neighbors complain about the noise of her screams of delight...

[Texinator]

Nah, I'm a guy, and so I know exactly that it doesn't always take a whole lot for a man to get off, especially if he is very horny. I also know that there is a recovery period after he's had his orgasm. That's why a 'ladies first' approach is good. Get her off first. There are many ways to do that aside from inserting Tab P into Slot V. In fact, some women can't get off like that at all. So focus on her first and then get the little fella involved. If you can make her orgasm like that or at least last long enough for her to have some pleasure, great. If it's like pulling a grenade pin and you pop three seconds later, that's fine too, then at least she's had her orgasm already if you focused on her before. Then there's no reason for her to wait.

[Hooster]

Could not agree more, Tex. My point was that the ladies do not need to think it is the end of the world if an inexperienced guy gets it wrong at the beginning. A little patience can bring big rewards.

[qua]

I didnt orgasm and I didnt say anything, Im used to him shutting off after he's come and he's not a cuddler. We'd had some really hot foreplay a few days ago but didnt have sex but it was great and got me all built up for seeing him again hence my need for something more - maybe im being selfish who knows, but our sex drives never seem to be in tune! I'd never dare tell him I wasnt satisfied but maybe i'll have to man up! He'll be so offended ha.

And Hooster I dont know if youre referring to me when you write "My point was that the ladies do not need to think it is the end of the world if an inexperienced guy gets it wrong at the beginning." He's way more experienced than me and we've been together a year and a half, maybe i just caugh him on a bad day!