[CHANDLERS WISH]

You must all be ladies since you seem quite ignorant about how a mans body works. Firstly, never ever expect anything great after 2 weeks of no sex! Unless he has been masturbating a lot he will be very horny and it WILL be over fast, sorry but that is a fact of life. Just take the time to chill out for an hour or so while he gets his strength back and THEN he will be able to make love to you in a way that makes you happy, at least he should be able to do that.

So what is the lesson?

And, that's quite ignorant to make such a statement too, that we are ignorant, women. We know our bodies as well, what our needs are, it's called communication breakdown..especially if we are told something and build up in anticipation and then get let down.

And, as Tex pointed out, no they were not all women whom replied. Be careful please, on judging on this Forum...


Pretty sure that was my reply as well, 2 weeks after no sex, equals horny, which therefore, equalled selfishiness, looking after himself, can't see why you think that is "alright" and that we should "understand"....that he told her what he "would do" and didn't go through with it?

The op states, "he's not a cuddler" I stated, he should have held her, after.... She has answered that.

The op stated that he wound her up, gave her hot foreplay and then if you recall, "he" stated, he would give her hot sex... So she got built up in anticipation, did she not? His words... The op, now feels selfish what for? Their sex life is not in tune, she states.. He built her up made promises and neglected to go through with them...

She has a right therefore to feel neglected, broken promise, and down and out as a result.

OP.. I think Hooster mis-read your thread, our answers and the understanding that communication is highly important coupled with, make a promise? Build up expectations? Follow through, off course otherwise, we are going to (male or female) feel let down....

I think he meant his promise but couldn't go through with it, as I said, horny, but he needs to understand that he is one of two people in a relationship where it's still give and take.

Obviously 5 minutes doesn't equal all that foreplay you had the last time where he built you up, and made you wait for more... 5 minutes means that he had sex, had his fill and that was it.. He forgot his promise in my opinion...

CW

[jns]

qua, you will just have to train him to give you pleasure first. Maybe you can turn him into a cuddler, though I don't have any thoughts on how to do that. Does he at least like kissing?

[sallywi2003]

I would be verry diappointed myself after not having sex for 2 weeks. I know that guys build up and after 2 weeks can explode quickly but to orgasm and leave is not good. I would voice my concerns on mutaul satisfaction and this was not the case. I would talk to him about cuddling and satisfying you by kissing, licking anal sex or whatever works. Next time i would not let him get away and I would work him up to round 2 with 2 weeks of sperm built up he should be good for a second orgasm and if it is not him having a orgasm at least he can make you feel satisfied by whatever means.