So I've been talking to this girl for a while but she lives in a different city now for school. But anytime she comes back in town, we try and hang out and things have started heating up - we were getting pretty intimate (out of decency I wont post details or use crude language) on the dance floor. She was loving it and didn't want to make it obvious what was going on because she had a friend with her who has always had a crush on me and she didn't want to upset her.
So, after that night, she went back to school and I haven't hung out with her since. We text back and forth and she always hints at wanting to have sex but I have played it cool, teasing her with things like "you need to slow it down, I'm not that easy," etc. I do this so that I don't come across as desperate (I am not desperate, my sex life is fine) - I truly believe that women say suggestive things to test you so they can find out what you're intentions are and if you pass these tests, you can keep up the attraction.
So, last night, she is back in town for the evening, and I was at a concert and planned to go out afterwards, time permitting. I leave the show, and get a call from my buddy who is out at the bar with her and her friends. He calls and says "get up here, Stephanie has been asking about you all night."
So I get up there, I am definitely pretty drunk at this point, but not a problem because so is she. When I get there, I notice her dancing with this other dude and see them making out. Bar was closing in 20 mins so I ignored her and her new guy friend, and waited til we were outside to say hello to her. I didn't mention it to her, nor did she acknowledge it, but she was happy to see me and we made plans to hang out poolside today and get drinks.
Thing is, I feel like we have a strong physical attraction that could turn into sex if the opportunity presented itself. Her making out with the other guy doesn't bother me in the least because the night was nearly over and I wasn't expecting anything to happen in such short notice being that it has been 5 wks. since I saw her last. I have no real strong, emotional feelings for her other than the physical attraction I have to her. She is clearly attracted to me still, based on her body language and her repeatedly asking my friend about me when I was gone.
So basically I need some advice on how to play this. When I see her today, do I acknowledge it and play it off as a non-factor (in my mind it is) or do I just ignore it? I'm not sure if she knows that I saw her making out with that guy though. I do know that for a lot of women, making out is often meaningless and women do this all the time but nothing more comes of it. The guy often gets too pushy and exposes too much interest too early and it scares the woman off. I have done it before and have learned from my mistake. But, I have never been in this situation before so I'm wondering the best way to approach this so that I don't lose any attraction.
Thanks in advance
So, after that night, she went back to school and I haven't hung out with her since. We text back and forth and she always hints at wanting to have sex but I have played it cool, teasing her with things like "you need to slow it down, I'm not that easy," etc. I do this so that I don't come across as desperate (I am not desperate, my sex life is fine) - I truly believe that women say suggestive things to test you so they can find out what you're intentions are and if you pass these tests, you can keep up the attraction.
So, last night, she is back in town for the evening, and I was at a concert and planned to go out afterwards, time permitting. I leave the show, and get a call from my buddy who is out at the bar with her and her friends. He calls and says "get up here, Stephanie has been asking about you all night."
So I get up there, I am definitely pretty drunk at this point, but not a problem because so is she. When I get there, I notice her dancing with this other dude and see them making out. Bar was closing in 20 mins so I ignored her and her new guy friend, and waited til we were outside to say hello to her. I didn't mention it to her, nor did she acknowledge it, but she was happy to see me and we made plans to hang out poolside today and get drinks.
Thing is, I feel like we have a strong physical attraction that could turn into sex if the opportunity presented itself. Her making out with the other guy doesn't bother me in the least because the night was nearly over and I wasn't expecting anything to happen in such short notice being that it has been 5 wks. since I saw her last. I have no real strong, emotional feelings for her other than the physical attraction I have to her. She is clearly attracted to me still, based on her body language and her repeatedly asking my friend about me when I was gone.
So basically I need some advice on how to play this. When I see her today, do I acknowledge it and play it off as a non-factor (in my mind it is) or do I just ignore it? I'm not sure if she knows that I saw her making out with that guy though. I do know that for a lot of women, making out is often meaningless and women do this all the time but nothing more comes of it. The guy often gets too pushy and exposes too much interest too early and it scares the woman off. I have done it before and have learned from my mistake. But, I have never been in this situation before so I'm wondering the best way to approach this so that I don't lose any attraction.
Thanks in advance
If she was asking about me, why be on the dancefloor doing the same thing with someone else, instead of waiting to see if I get there? 
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