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Girl on top
I've only had sex with 2 people. One was my boyfriend of 8 months. When we had sex it was usually missionary, doggy, or the spooning position. He never asked or even brought up me getting on top. We broke up about 5 months ago so I've moved on and been talking to a new guy. This weekend we hooked up and he asked me to get on top.. lets just say I failed miserably and I was so embarrassed. I told him that it's something I've never done before, he told me it was okay, but it still doesn't change how dumb I felt. I've been trying to read some tips online to help but I haven't found much. I just need someone to give me really good, detailed tips on what exactly I'm suppose to be doing. Up and down motion? How do I move my hips? I just want to have more of a clue next time we have sex, I'm sure practice will make it better, but I just need an idea of what to do. -
You just need practice. If he likes you he will be willing to practice alot!!
Do not be embarrassed... most guys LOVE WOT and will be patient.
What did you do that felt weird? I find it most stable to be on my knees with my feet behind me. Don;t worry at first about going up and down. Grinding back and forth or in small circles is good. -
Did you look at his face to see if he was enjoying it. You should be able to tell by his expression if he is enjoying it, then vary the rhythm to tease him slowly and drive him wild rapidly. Sit on him in a reverse direction to give him views of your butt and normal to give him views of your face and breasts and allow his hands to play with your clitoris.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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Grind up and down.
If you don't feel like that's doing anything then just try lifting your butt when going up and down.
It's really hard to explain. (lmao at how I'm like trying to act it out and explain it at the same time.)
A good tip though is to watch porn. It's actually kind of useful when picking up sex tips.Comment
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When you are up there, focus on your own pleasure... do what feels good TO YOU... its your chance to control the depth of thrusts, the speed , the in and out, the rotation etc... do NOT worry about how you look or what you *should* be doing... trust that if you just get up there and focus on getting yourself off that your boyfriend will enjoy not only the show but whatever moves you are doing that please you are very likely to please him as well... so don't worry about the specifics, just get up there and please yourself with his penis, it'll be good for him this way or that way if you do that.Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.Comment
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HD is, as usual, exactly right!When you are up there, focus on your own pleasure... do what feels good TO YOU... its your chance to control the depth of thrusts, the speed , the in and out, the rotation etc... do NOT worry about how you look or what you *should* be doing... trust that if you just get up there and focus on getting yourself off that your boyfriend will enjoy not only the show but whatever moves you are doing that please you are very likely to please him as well... so don't worry about the specifics, just get up there and please yourself with his penis, it'll be good for him this way or that way if you do that.
There's nothing I'd rather see than my lover enjoying herself in just that way.
And no matter what you do, don't "feel dumb!" Your new bf wasn't complaining, was he?
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