[JRod]

So I'll probably get moved to The Lounge again, lol that's cool but here is my latest question.
-Do women "act" like ya'll don't know how to do something/it's your "first" time doing something when ya'll are with a new man?? ....."oh, this is the first time I've done that position" or "I really don't have alot of experience giving blow jobs" or "that's the first time I've ever O'd that way", etc, etc.
-Be honest. I really think many do. I've experienced it too many times. Then a few months later ya'll are all Pros at it. I mean, I suppose it's possible but come on it's not likely especially if your over..oh, 30ish. So either this is the case or my ex's have had some lame sex before me.

[Hopeless Dork]

I've never pretended I haven't done something I have, but being over 30 doesn't mean you've done it all, I am in my early 30's and still experiencing many sexual things for the first time.

But I can certainly understand why some women of ANY age would act like "is this a penis?" "oh my what should i do with it?" even if they know because some men can be so sensitive in this area. A woman knows if she gives terrible head the guy won't enjoy it, but she knows if she gives it too good instead of just enjoying it he's going to wonder where she got her skills.

I think when you are know you are with a mature, thats into you.. and you can be yourself... its the best feeling in the world... when you don't have to fake innocence or fake being sexual dynamite... you can just feel and do what you want to make them and you feel good without worries of what he'll think either way.

I think when a woman has established she has a secure man that loves her she doesn't fake not knowing how to do things or fake having done things she hasn't. Its really sad that some men can't handle a woman that has a sexual past , yet get frustrated with women that are frigid and don't like sex and a woman over 30 that likes sex is going to have some sort of history of having done it before...

Oh an just to add just because a woman does something with a guy... and seems to know what she is doing very well -- doesn't mean she's done it before. Like in my case I spent many years being celibate and fantasizing about sex and what I wanted to do when I had it... knew what I wanted to feel and how I wanted to touch him etc... and many of the things we did it I probably seemed like I'd done it a bunch before because I'd thought about it so much -- but it was all new to me.

[Trying Hard]

Many years ago, after I had had sex for the first time with my (then) new girl friend, as we were leaving the motel, she insisted I saw some drops of “blood” on the bed sheets, and said she had just lost her virginity. She had never told me she was a virgin! I had already been with two virgins before, and it felt very different. Of course, I may be wrong- not two women are alike- but to this day, I can’t help to think it was staged (she had actually been involved in a long term relationship with some guy, and they had been practically engaged). Oh well, she might have had her reasons...

[ItsASecret]

If I were with a new guy I would pretend to a certain extent. A prime example would be when I go down on him. Yes I have given my bf a ton of bjs but when I do go down on him I go with the flow, I am not trying to turn it into a spectacle or a show or some superb action...all that matters to me is he is happy with the result. If I go down on a different guy and he considers it the best he had then okay great but I am not going to try and be the type of girl that claims to know how to give the best head in the world only to have him realize in his mind that he has had better. I would also let him know from the start that it is not my favorite thing to do but I do enjoy seeing that he is being pleasured.

As for sex positions I would also let him know that just because I am in my early 20's and a University student does not mean I am going to act like a University orgy girl ready to bang as though we were participants in one of his porno movie collections. Sure I am open to positions and enjoying whatever may come but I am not going to act like some crazed girl he may see at one of his parties.

[LanaBear]

I don't really get what acting like you were inexperienced would gain or even acting like you were more experienced than you were. Eventually, the truth (or actions) will come out. If you act like you are inexperienced, you may be withholding things that bring you a lot of pleasure, which in turn would please your SO. Where does that get you? No where.

If you are mature and have a mature SO, experience (either not enough or too much) shouldn't matter. IMO, you would want to draw from past experiences together and build new ones. Why go into a relationship pretending to be the Virgin Mary? Just cheating yourself in the long run.

[Texinator]

I don't see that pretending does any good. If the woman really is inexperienced, then the man should use the opportunity to help her explore and learn new things. If she really is experienced, then the man should just enjoy her skills. It's just the same the other way around, by the way.

[WildChild]

No doubt there are women who do this upon occasion. It may be because they have had men treat them negatively if they feel the woman is "too" experienced. As a culture we unrealistically expect men to know what they are doing sexually and to guide or lead in this. Many times experienced women catch the ho lable and will act protectively of themselves by acting less skilled than they are.

That said, in a new relationship, there is a period of time when you are getting to know each other's bodies and responses and things can be a little clumsy at first. With rare exception I have found that the second or third time are much better than the first time, sexually. The first couple times the rush of a new encounter carries you, then later, skill and being more in tune take over.

I would certainly hope that even if it was a new position or activity that after a couple months they would be 'pros' at it, I mean, how long does it take?