[ltsang]

Over the year off our marriage we do everything together. We even shower together just to save some water in our house. I have tried to licking my wife's vagina and it doesn't taste right for me. I don't really see how other people does it? Does your husband lick yours? Also I've been trying to get my wife to give me a bj. She refuses it. Then after a while I gave up on sex. Now I go to redtube.com to look for porn and I intention wanting to get my suck. Why?

[lizzardb63]

Why doesn't she want to give you a blow job? Did she say? Maybe she doesn't want to because you're disgusted with her. It can be quite embarassing to open up to someone that much and then hear they don't like the taste of it. It may have hurt her feelings. It's okay for you to feel that way, but why should she is you won't either? Why give up on sex all together too? You have to keep the relationship alive.

[Olympia]

Communication...... Talk and Listen with your spouse
Looking at porn, huhmm... well, do you enjoy that more than sex with your wife..? Or are you substituting..? Do you seek
love making,(passion) or just plain sex..?
There is much on this site about porn use, lack of variety; (positions),... Browse thru the archives..

[jns]

Over the year off our marriage we do everything together. We even shower together just to save some water in our house. I have tried to licking my wife's vagina and it doesn't taste right for me. I don't really see how other people does it? Does your husband lick yours? Also I've been trying to get my wife to give me a bj. She refuses it. Then after a while I gave up on sex. Now I go to redtube.com to look for porn and I intention wanting to get my suck. Why?

Are you licking her vagina or her clitoris? As long as your wife has properly cleaned up, the flavor of her vagina should be fairly benign.

[Allie602]

"I have tried to licking my wife's vagina and it doesn't taste right for me. I don't really see how other people does it? Does your husband lick yours?"

Itsang I think your problem is bigger than oral sex - you have given up something that is absolutely essential to your marriage, sex. If you don't fix it, you will not stay together. Look at your post and see if it makes sense - you have problems giving your wife oral yet you can't accept that she has the same problem with you. You gave up sex and substituted porn and put your marriage in peril.

I am pleased to see that you have posted because I think you are trying to work things out. First thing is cleanliness for both of you, try different soaps (irish spring?), just after a shower, she may have a vaginal bacterial infection and for that she should see her doctor for treatment, she can try eating yoghurt, ask doctor about cleansing douche. Try different things and don't give up until you have really worked at it.

You don't mention if you satisfy your wife. Does she have orgasms, how long do you last, do you know how to give her oral sex? Have you read anything about female sexuality? Sex should be mutually satisfying, you say she is not satisfying you with oral sex but are you satisfying her? What was sex like before marriage and how long did you know each other before marriage, how old are you both? This info will help to get you better help with the problem.

[ltsang]

My sex last not even 5 minutes. 3 minutes later my sperm would want to get out. I've tried to hold it and make it last longer, but I couldn't take it any more. So the sperm was released. Everything in our marriage is going very well. Our baby is about to be born soon. 11/15/2010. How can I make sex last longer? Any tips.

[Mes T]

I think you might benefit from reading up a little bit on female sexuality. I hope WildChild sees this thread because she's great at recommending books!

Most women have the most pleasure from stimulation of the clitoris. Your wife probably isn't getting that if you're just humping her for 3 minutes. Use your fingers to stimulate her clitoris, maybe buy a sex toy. Kiss her longer, touch her other places longer, learn to give her an orgasm, and THEN you can put your penis in her vagina for 3 minutes.

If your wife isn't enjoying sex, she's not going to want to give you a blow job. Why would she?

I get the feeling that you two don't talk about sex, or pleasure, or intimacy. Is this true?

A woman wants to have orgasms, just like a man does. Does your wife have orgasms?

[Allie602]

You can absolutely last longer but I can't tell you how - I hope one of the men will answer. There is much info on the internet and good books. I think you will be able to overcome this because you are motivated, good luck.