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  • attagirl28
    Member
    • Dec 2009
    • 30

    Embarrassed to ask

    SO my boyfriend and i, last saturday, started getting pretty intimate. It went from watchong a movie to me giving him a bj, which ive never done before. Then on thursday we were at the park at night ( Which i totally cant believe i did it there) and we started getting handsie and i ended up giving him another bj.
    I actually really like doing that for him cause he makes the sexiest noises that turn me on. Thing is is tat he hasnt actually made me orgasim. Hes used his fingers and went down on me for a minute but then said i had to put my pants back on cause he was too tempted. Then thursday we kind of had to hurry up cause he had to go home.

    I know he isnt purposely doing this, buts like as soon as hes finished we are done getting intimate. Im too embarrassed to ask him. How would i even go about asking him?
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    Guys mostly are ready to go on to other things once they orgasm. Some learn to go on, but many don't. If he gives you all the pleasure you want before he gets his, you will both be satisfied. I can understand him worrying about losing control, it is hard to stop at times. If he gets too turned on by giving you oral, he will have to learn how to finger you so you climax. It may take time. Give him as many pointers as you can as far as how you like his actions. Don't hint, tell him precisely what he has to do.

    Tell him you were left hanging by the sudden finish and ask him to spend a lot of time on you this time to make up for it. Tell him you need more time if you do and he gets too ready to go. It would be best if he is paying attention to your upper half when he is fingering you, such as kissing you almost everywhere.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • geedee
      Member
      • Oct 2009
      • 84

      I totally agree with what jns said. You have to help him out.... tell him, whisper it in his ear....

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      • p3375
        Veteran Member
        • Jan 2010
        • 375

        It's like taking a kid to the grocery store - don't buy him the candybar until you've picked up the bread and milk
        Pat

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        • CharlesV
          Member
          • Aug 2010
          • 43

          It should always be ladies first I think.

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          • eleni
            Senior Member
            • Feb 2010
            • 179

            secretly get yourself almost to orgasm before you mess around together
            so that you come pretty much as soon as you start.

            then afterwards put your clothes back on and roll over/go on to something else

            he'll get all like 'what?!??!?'
            and then say something along the lines of - 'well its always over after you orgasm, so same for me right?'

            this worked great for me x
            'so why care for these petty obsessions? your designer heart still beats with common blood. and what if you could have genetic perfection? would you change who you are if you could?'

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