[Allie602]

Do tell him about the pain when it goes too deep. Sounds like he loves and cares for you and I am certain he wants to do everything to make sure it mutually good. If you are not communicating in the beginning honestly it will be diff. to tell him later and you may start to avoid sex. So start off healthy he sounds like a good guy give him a chance to take care of you he will like that.

[teenie]

I have the same issue, don't tell him about the pain if he is a worrier. With my bf he can't get hard because he worries that he'll hurt me. I mean he does when he calms down, but don't worry him. Just have control of the situation and it's ok.

[Colorado]

Ok, excuse me for chiming in and being honest, but you ladies should know...

All these suggestions and comments above are great!, but let me expand on a few if I may, as I am sort of in the same boat.

- First: I would definately let him know if it is painfull - dont just take it! He should know and would want to know this for sure. Explain that it's best if you are able to control the depth, and then look around for positions that mainly focus on your ability to do just that.
- Secondly, and personally, the missionary sux (to me at least), I much prefer her on top - not that I am being lazy, but because we (men) are visual creatures and the view with you riding us is fantastic! and we get two free hands to assist you in other ways as well - win/win in my book. There are MANY positions that allow you full or more control and you should research them - and its a turn-on to try different things all the time. My wife goes to cosmo for positions, and another called sexinfo101 or something like that. I know we sit down on many occasions and say ok, whats in store tonight - lets pick some good ones! and they have some good ones.
- Third, the one where you are laying on your belly, legs closed (tighly is great), he over you like doing push-ups is fantastic! why? Because (and I hate to say this and contradict anyone, but) being "all in" is much better than being partially in. This position allows the feeling of being "balls deep" if I may be so crude; and THAT is why I love it so much. Now again, there are lots of others that allow the same sensation, and maybe why I hate the missionary, but this should get you started. She just said one is called "spoon", another "canoo canoodle (?)", and another is "the jockey" for starters.

Now as a caveat; I do not mean by my third point to make you beleive that he has to be "all in" to have a pleasurable night - NOT SO - just only to say that it is an unparralleled feeling. Take your time and "keep practicing often" (otherwise you tighten back up) and you will become much more able in time to accept all he has to offer, at least my wife was able to. No matter - he will still very much enjoy what he has with you even if he cant get the whole thing in, as that is not everything.

I hope a mans point of view here has helpped, feel free to ask any further info if you require it; but be aware, I will only be honest.

[chaya]

I started this thread over 6 weeks ago. At the time, I had been having sex with my boyfriend for about 2 weeks. Since then, I have "loosened up" and can take him all with only a little pain. He enjoys being "all in" so much that I'm glad to endure some pain to please him. Sometimes if the pain comes while I'm having an orgasm, it adds to the orgasm and is fantastic. I've tried other positions, spooning is good but cowgirl is the best for us. It lets me look him in the face and see the pleasure I'm giving him.

[Colorado]

That's Fantastic! I'm so glad to hear that all is going well for you both.
Hope I was able to contribute in some small way.

Again, just shout if I can help with any other questions you may have - I'd be honored.