[collegegirl2010]

Is it wrong to want to marry a guy who isn't a virgin though I am? I asked my sister and she said there nothing wrong with it. And I don't mean a guy who's just promiscious, but a guy that may have been in serious relationships in the past and you know had sex a couple times. I just want someone with experience. Also, I'd like to marry a caucasian guy. I love interracial couples, they are so cute to me and I was wonder am I wrong for being so specific in what I want? Am I wrong or not?

[stressed]

First of all, have you found a guy that "fits this list" or is this just the way you think of your "ideal man" to be?

In a way it's good to know what you want (although nobody ever fits any standards or stereotypes, since everybody is different), in another way you should be more open in regards to men. As in, you may be attracted to non-caucasian men with sexual experience, but you might meet a man who is caucasian, with little experience, but whom you find equally attractive and can be happy with.

I think that what you're saying is that you have painted the picture of a guy you think he'd give you all you want, however happiness is usually found where you least expect it and sometimes in people you never thought you'd fall for.

My opinion: Nothing wrong with fantasizing and making plans about the future or your future husband, as long as you can overlook these plans if you find a man who does not fit the picture, yet can love you as much as you can love him.

[collegegirl2010]

First of all, have you found a guy that "fits this list" or is this just the way you think of your "ideal man" to be?

In a way it's good to know what you want (although nobody ever fits any standards or stereotypes, since everybody is different), in another way you should be more open in regards to men. As in, you may be attracted to non-caucasian men with sexual experience, but you might meet a man who is caucasian, with little experience, but whom you find equally attractive and can be happy with.

I think that what you're saying is that you have painted the picture of a guy you think he'd give you all you want, however happiness is usually found where you least expect it and sometimes in people you never thought you'd fall for.

My opinion: Nothing wrong with fantasizing and making plans about the future or your future husband, as long as you can overlook these plans if you find a man who does not fit the picture, yet can love you as much as you can love him.

Thanks and yea it is sort of an "ideal man" I painted in my head but I am very open, so whoever comes my way that I fall in love with is fine. I was just asking because I usually find myself more attracted to white guys. I do see other races of men I find attractive, but in generally I like white men because I find alot of them attractive. And thanks for answering you made a great piont, you really made me think about it.

[LISAALISA]

Is it wrong to want to marry a guy who isn't a virgin though I am? I asked my sister and she said there nothing wrong with it. And I don't mean a guy who's just promiscious, but a guy that may have been in serious relationships in the past and you know had sex a couple times. I just want someone with experience. Also, I'd like to marry a caucasian guy. I love interracial couples, they are so cute to me and I was wonder am I wrong for being so specific in what I want? Am I wrong or not?

I am married to 35 year old virgin now he is not definitely. I wasn’t looking for little sexual experience it just happened I love him so so much but Our sex life is disaster!
So from my point of view nothing wrong with it but experience will give you more adventure or passion cause one of you will be helping to another to open yourself…

[Guest]

Well of course it's always better if the man has some experience, but not always necessary either, it can be fun learning what makes each other tick.

There is nothing wrong with you wanting to marry a white guy either, just don't narrow your options down to a point that you overlook Mr. right just because he's not white.

[stressed]

nothing wrong with it but experience will give you more adventure or passion cause one of you will be helping to another to open yourself…

I have to disagree here. Experience does not equal passion. If the couple is sexually compatible experience does not play a role at all. What experience does help with is knowing what you like, how you like it, and with having a few extra "moves" to show your partner. But since everyone likes different things sex only gets better if both parties involved equally want to pleasure and learn about their partner, so in the process they become "better" at it.

[collegegirl2010]

Well of course it's always better if the man has some experience, but not always necessary either, it can be fun learning what makes each other tick.

There is nothing wrong with you wanting to marry a white guy either, just don't narrow your options down to a point that you overlook Mr. right just because he's not white.

Thanks and I completely understand, I'm open minded so I'm not just all about one thing, I just find that a lot of white men are really cute

[maverick]

There is nothing wrong with chasing your dreams or maybe in this case your fantasy. We all find certain things attractive in the opposite sex and race can certaily be one of them. So chase your dreams without regret. Just don't be suprised if you fall in love with a sexually inexperienced person the same race as you. Love is funny like that.

[collegegirl2010]

There is nothing wrong with chasing your dreams or maybe in this case your fantasy. We all find certain things attractive in the opposite sex and race can certaily be one of them. So chase your dreams without regret. Just don't be suprised if you fall in love with a sexually inexperienced person the same race as you. Love is funny like that.

Thanks...you are very wise and understanding

[jns]

cg, nothing wrong with chasing your dreams. Experience is useful for the right guy. Experience but the wrong guy is a disaster. No experience, but the right guy is something the two of you can work on. Find some guy who will be comfortable having you in his family. He should defend you and take your side. You should do the same for him, allowing for his role as a man. This is necessary for same race and interracial as well as culturally similar and culturally divergent couples. Find someone who is sensitive and perceptive about the way different groups of people view things and interact. Good luck.