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    I am a virgin--girl yet i feel weird things. every now and then i can't stop myself imagining perverted things like having sex with someone-- i feel something is flowing and i was getting wet that is why i thought if i masturbate it would help to satisfy my desire but I don't know how. some of my readings said i need to finger myself but i am scared to do it alone to finger myself. (don't have a boyfriend to ask).
    Help,,is there any other way to masturbate except in fingering... or satisfy my desire and give me pleasure without loosing my virginity???

    p.s. I just don't want to do perverted things with just anyone though. please help.
    Last edited by Alison H.; 04-02-2021, 12:41 PM.

  • How old are you?
    Having sex with someone is not perverted. It's normal. Very normal.

    Fingering is using your fingers inside your vagina and many women find that very pleasurable. Unless they have been taught or learned with a woman, boys don't know anything about a woman's body or what will bring her pleasure. Exploring your own body is a really good way to start. Then when you are ready to have a sexual relationship you will be able to share what pleasures you.

    First you need to know your body. I encourage you to get a mirror, get naked and take a good look. You can find some excellent anatomical information online. Learn the names and location of your clitorus, inner and outer labia, mons, your vulva, vagina, prenium, anus, and urethra. See how pretty your vulva is, how the inner lips are like a flower. Get a finger nice and wet and start exploring with touch, gently run your finger tip over the different areas (never go from anus to vagina, you can transfer bacteria). Where does it feel good? Where does it feel better?

    Your clitorus has 8000 nerve endings and it's only purpose is sexual pleasure. It's your hot button. Arousing yourself should be about more than just stimulating your clit. Run your hands over your body, expereiment with different levels of touch; soft, full hands, fingertips only, firm, see what feels best and where. citcle your breasts, play with your nipples, find out what feels good, what gets your nipples to pop?

    You need to be lubricated to pleasure yourself and your vagina can produce plenty of it's own lubrication but most women use some additional lubrication to self pleasure. I find that saliva works just fine. Expereiment with stimulating and playing with your clit. Often getting right on it is too sensitive so try around it or just to the side.
    There are a number of books on sex for one or self pleasuring. The Orgasm Loop has some good info on it too.

    Relax, have fun and forget the idea that anything pleasurable with your body is perverted.

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    • Very good information above! Having sex or masturbating are not perverted and are not things to be ashamed about - don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

      I am a virgin myself (not because I think sex is bad, but because I haven't found the right guy), but I do get myself off a lot, at least once a day. Instead of worrying about fingering yourself, work on rubbing your clitoris and seeing what feels good - the clitoris is much more sensitive than the vagina and is the seat of a woman's sexual pleasure. Most women cannot orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. When I masturbate, I just roll my clitoris in between my index and middle fingers - the glans is far too sensitive to stimulate directly by rubbing the vulval area. Have you had an orgasm before? It is the single greatest feeling in the world and I can't believe I lived the first 19 years of my life without having one.

      Find out what turns you on and have some fun by yourself. I almost always use some kind of visual aid while masturbating - porn, erotic literature, even just a movie with a guy I find attractive - and let my imagination carry me away. Fantasize all you want about whoever/whatever your heart desires at the moment - after all, it's your brain and no one can read your thoughts. Don't feel ashamed or repress your sexual fantasies! It seems like a lot of women don't know what makes them aroused. It's pretty simple... Look at or read something erotic, and when you feel a bunch of blood rush into your clitoris and your vagina becomes lubricated, you know you've found something that turns you on. Sexual arousal is a physiological reflex to certain erotic stimuli - it's just a matter of finding out what gets your juices going.

      Most importantly of all, have fun!

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      • thanks a lot.. well I tried touching and rubbing my clitoris passionately, and yeah feel the pleasure, the heat and something I can't explain but It's really great... I did it while reading a mature manga full of erotic sex but i tend to feel envy by doing it alone without a partner. some of my readings though says that it give more pleasure by doing it with someone (but I want to find my right man first). about touching my body...my breast.. I really don't know where to start eve i start fantasizing having sex with a man .. I end up squeezing my breast but there something missing i didn't feel a great pleasure at all.

        Only rubbing my clitoris make me feel dizzy, pleasured and make me wet though there still missing. i think i still have something liquid (lubricant) to produce yet the pleasure i feel is not enough to satisfy me. I don't want to use any other thing to insert inside of me though other say it feels good.

        wildchild I am 18 y/o am I too young for this? I want to have fun-- is it alright to do this thing everyday??? though it only lasted me a a few minutes.

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        • It is perfectly normal to masturbate. I am 19 and masturbate almost daily. I am a virgin like yourself. It is perfectly ok to do this every day. What I did when I was still living with my parents was I would take my cellphone and put it on vibrate and hold it against my clitoris. Then I would call my cellphone with my home phone. It feels really good.

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          • Originally posted by Katie127 View Post
            What I did when I was still living with my parents was I would take my cellphone and put it on vibrate and hold it against my clitoris. Then I would call my cellphone with my home phone. It feels really good.
            Bummer though when you're just about to climax and it goes to voice mail.

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            • Originally posted by Jimbeau View Post
              Bummer though when you're just about to climax and it goes to voice mail.
              Yeah it takes good timing.

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              • more solo techniques

                There are sooo many answers to this. When I was a teen, I used to "hump" the arm of a big easy chair. After a while I could get off quite easily and it was good practice for being on top with a man.
                Another way I like is using my shower massage. Set it on "pulse," aim it at that special spot and things will get interesting. One more, which I have never actually tried but a girlfriend told me she uses is an electric tooth brush. You put a washcloth or towel between the vibrating end and your body. She says it works great on trips because there is no need to carry a vibrator that might prove embarassing when going through security or customs.

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