[Magic]

Thanks for the interesting stories Counting Calories and Teenie! I have written down a lot of tips, that im going to try. I think I might gonna start trying to arouse myself again. As you both say, i need to relax in my mind. What I also realised, is that i can't fantasize about sex for a long time. I got to work on that, because the fact that i can't fantasize for a long time, means i think too much.

Btw, girls, how does alcohol and being drunk affect sex/getting orgasm?

[teenie]

I have never been drunk so i'm not sure...it makes you noisier i've heard. lol

[steanna7]

I was the same way when i was 19 or younger im 28 now.. I did play with myself and could alway orgasm that way but not with a person. So this was the trick for me and GUYS LISTEN UP!! oh and dont use the vibrator if you start orgasming off it you will get hooked and i havent seen a penis vibrate yet so it will be harder to orgasm off of a person. You have to play with your self and figure out your rhythm to get you to orgasm mine is more of a first three fingers kind of rubbing up and down the clitoris area i can get off in under a min.. i dont need penetration at all. ( I figured this out a prob.22 yrs old) Now if your in bed with someone the key is to get into a position where you can do this same rhythm for me i can orgasm on top really easy, on bottom i have to put my hands under my waist to kind of lift up the pelvic area, I cant orgasm from behind unless I play with it myself while hes doing it(No clit stimulation from back). but the good new is once you start it is quite easy to always have one. and too all the sensitive clits try letting your boyfriends only play with it once you have your gspot stimulation and your almost there if he adds this too it, it should bring you right over the edge. and let him go down on you i understand the licking freaks you out do it when your fresh out the shower its usually easier to orgasm from this and his tongue wont hurt your clit like his hand its a totally different feeling and when you orgasm it will be stronger.. Good luck let us know when it happens

[horsyluvr]

I'm in the same situation. But I'm on birth control (Junel Fe) and I was on wellbutrin for slight depression.

[JennM]

Hello, I'm 23 and I too have never had an orgasm. I have anxiety and take an antidepressant for it. I'm glad that I'm not the only one to not have had one yet lol I've heard about anorgasmia and am thinking that I won't be able to have one

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

If you dont like him being down there then that is what is stopping your from orgasming.

If you dont like him rubbing your clit its probably because it's very sensitive organ - you need to tell him not to do it in a subtle way.

If the fingering is working then that is good personally I dont do it I just stick to my hand caressing and then much later I might caress the vulva but its not something I do from the onset.

Anything that eventually leads to irration I avoid because regardless of whether it works initially I wouldnt want to turn into irritation or at worst pain and discomfort.

Still if its works and its not uncomfortable then obviously its working to some extent and thats a good thing.

[magpiegirl]

I had that problem for a loooong time. My ex was a little quick at the gun so we never had much of a chance. My boyfriend and I have sex 4-5 times a week and I used to be able to orgasm from sex, he went away for a couple months and I got a vibrator, just to try it out. Since he got back I have not been able to orgasm from sex!! I have no idea why, help?!