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  • LoveCatherine
    Member
    • May 2010
    • 46

    Sexy tips please

    My boyfriend and I have been dating just over a year now. Things are moving forward, I am and he is keenly hinting about me dressing up and introducing toys in to our sex life. I am keen and will try anything once but I have little experience in this area and don't even know were to begin.
    Any ideas or tips for a first timer in outfits and toys???
    He has also mentioned anal, I have experienced this once, not sure if he has? He said No when I asked him, but again would like to try again.

    I need to build my confidence in these areas instead of shying it off.
  • kristalyn_04
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 2164

    Roleplaying outfits are fun if you're not too shy with your partner, just act the part along with some dirty talk and sexy movements. There is a broad spectrum of sex toys out there... were you thinking simple like a vibrator or something different like anal beads or a c*ck ring? Really depends on what you're going for. *(sorry about profanity... that is the name for it so didn't know what else to put there).

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    • lonestar
      Member
      • Sep 2010
      • 87

      Do it!!! It is a little awkward at first, but if he is asking you to do it then he will be receptive of whatever outfit you choose. The key is to pick something that YOU feel sexy in, not necessarily what he finds sexy. If you feel sexy, he will think you are sexy.
      I am in the same boat; I have low confidence but it just takes time and the feeling of safety. It's difficult because I think the things I want to do but rarely go through with them. Working on that...the worst thing he can do is reject you- the fun part about that is, if he does that... he's got to earn it back.
      Does he have any experience with toys? Is there anything specific he wants to try? It could be a fun learning experience either way; I've never tried...

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      • pnktoys
        Junior Member
        • Oct 2010
        • 1

        I would echo what others have said, but I would advise approaching it in a sensitive manner if you feel he may feel awkward about it.

        Some men have a major hang up about sex toys and want you want to try and avoid is him feeling inadequate in some way. Men as I'm sure you know are incredibly insecure beings most of the time!

        But in the words of Nike... Just do it!

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