basically i love my boyfriend loads n think is so gawgus and im really happy. i had my lil boy a year n a half a ago n sex was great up until a few months ago when i started getting pains during sex wenever my boyfriend went to far by accident lol and so i obviously went off sex a bit but i still wanted to do it all the time!!! but recently ive wanted sex but during wen my boyfriend kisses me i dont like it i jus wish it was over and done with i feel really guilty because i know its not something hes done please help because i did really enjoy sex with bf before xx
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can any1 shed any light please x
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Are you saying that you don't get turned on by him when he is kissing you, or you don't want to have sex because of the pains from him going too deep?Comment
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both lizzard i think im scared that its gunna hurt but at the same timewen he kisses me i cringe xComment
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Maybe it hurts because you don't get fully turned on because you're not that attracted to him. Do you still have strong feelings for him?Comment
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Have you tried taking it a little slower?
Maybe start over by just kissing, or foreplay instead of moving right to sex? Maybe spend more time getting turned on instead of putting pressure on yourself to be up for sex when you're not yet.
I know the feeling you're talking about, you want to have sex, but in the moment, for whatever reason, the intimacy is kind of overwhelming and almost gross. Maybe think about a way on non-judgmentally telling him that you're having issues in that department, and that you want to experiment with different ways of getting aroused and easing into sex.Comment
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yh i do still strong feelings but its like a total different feeling when it comes to sex its so strange n bellalla i think your right n i will try that thankyou very much hopefulli it will work xComment
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You did just recently have a child, i think it might be hormonal. It takes a while for the hormones to adjust. You might want to see you GP?Comment
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i was thinking about goin to see a doctor bt then i thort if it was hormones i wouldnt have wanted it since having my son oh i dont knw but thanks for all your help xComment
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