[dicoveringme]

Hi everyone, I'm 51 and rediscovering my sexuality and living life again once I shrugged off the idea that I'm getting old. (the "s" disappeared in my name... discovering me so, lol, dicoveringme) I found this site because I came across a blog written by a woman very open about sex who is also a member here. Here's my problem... Okay, I have a lot of confidence in my sexual abilities as far as intercourse but am very insecure in the area of oral sex. I have questions... questions too embarrassing to ask my doctor or friends. I want to ask them here but I don't know what the moderators allow and I don't want anyone thinking I'm just trying to be nasty. My questions are about the how's and the techniques. And I have a couple of very specific questions. I feel really stupid about not knowing. I would like to know if there is anyone open and frank and comfortable enough to answer some of my questions.

[WildChild]

Welcome to WH. Why not start with a site search? I'll bet many of the things you are wondering about have been discussed here repeatedly. Once you've done some reading, you can ask about things you haven't found an answer to.

[LanaBear]

I think we are all pretty open and frank, if you read some of the posts, you will probably come to the same conclusion.

Do a search, as WC suggested, there are many many threads on many many topics, if you don't find what you are looking for, ask away... There are plenty of us willing to help.

[dicoveringme]

Thanks for making me feel more at ease. I'm doing the search now and reading some of the replies. Also found the title to a book in one of the posts called Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex by Marcy Michealsone which I ordered. Don't know if it will arrive soon enough, though. I'll read more of the posts later and if I still have questions I'll ask cause I think I'm at the right place with the right people. Thanks.

[Hopeless Dork]

Well if you are looking to give mind blowing oral... keep one thing in mind -- your attitude about it is the most important thing, and what seperates a good bj from bad bj and good bj and a mind-blowing one If you pull down his pants like you are opening up a birthday present , if you treat his penis like the best tasting candy you can't wait to get to the center of... you are going to make it good.

Just think of how you feel and if you had a guy going down on you being timid and weird about your vagina, and then think about a guy going down on you like he's starving and you're thanksgiving dinner... which would be more mind blowing to you ?

After that its all about discovering what feels good to him.. a very fun process that can go on for hours days weeks months years trying new things, using both hands and mouth together, exploring looking for spots and pressures and strokes that make him moan or cause his eyes to roll back into his head.. and then looking for signs of him getting close and when he is going to a real consistant type of motion... again think of how it is when you are about to come, how you kind of zone in on a specific motion and action and keep it steady til you hit the peak, its the same for them... if they are close you don't want to go switching up (unless of course you are teasing him and trying to drag it out a bit

[Colorado]

Wow HD, I am extremely impressed! You've done your homework for sure; and I don't mean to embarass you at all, but I could not have explained it any better, nor do I beleive I have ever heard it explained better - BRAVO!

THAT is EXACTLY what we want, at least me (I don't want to speak for others here). The sense of enthusiasm on her part, the feeling that I am "the most awesome thanksgiving dinner (as you put it)" ever placed before her.

There are many little things and tricks that make for a good oral experience, but the biggest and most important part in general is the mental part. Definately!

Anyhow, I Just wanted to iterate that I am so very impressed with your answer (sincerely)!

[Guest]

You'll get good advice here from ladies that regularly do this for their male partners. You'll also get very frank answers from some of us males about what we like. Don't be afraid to ask. x

[Guest]

Ask away and ask today! Don't hold back! As that's what this forum is about. As for the moderators, as long as you keep your language "adult" and not "street" , you should be okay.

We've all been in locker rooms and we've all had raunchy conversations among friends. This is not either one.

Don't be afraid to ask the males in here specific questions too.

Do your questions have more to do with giving oral or receiving it? Remember, you should be receiving it too (just my opinion).