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  • miva
    Junior Member
    • Nov 2010
    • 5

    help! swollen sore and out of ideas

    I have been sexually active for about 5 years now and have never encountered a problem like this.
    Usually my partner and I have sex about once a night, but lately we've been going at it like rabbits.
    Pure sex, no foreplay for anywhere between an hour to 3 hours
    Now I am red and swollen all over. It hurts to pee, walk or stand/ sit and I can't contract or expand any muscles below the waist without experiencing pain inside and out.
    It started about 4 days ago and didn't hurt too bad the first day but seems to have gotten more painful since yesterday.
    (This may also be due to the fact that I am currently experiencing my menstral cycle)

    I am away at college and cannot get to see my family doctor/ gynocologest for at least 2 more weeks

    Is this something I should be concerned about?
    Is there anything I can do to reduce the pain?
    Will it heal on its own?
  • Guest

    Sounds like you've been a bit "too active" recently. Or, you aren't allowing your body to properly prepare itself, through foreplay, for what's to come.

    Foreplay is a wonderful and important part of intimacy. Not just for the mind but for the physical body too.

    Looks like you need to slow down a bit and prepare each other's bodies before engaging in sex for an extended period of time.

    Make sense?

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    • WildChild
      Banned
      • Sep 2008
      • 14142

      I agree with Seeker. Slow it down, maybe take a break for a few days and give your body time to recoop. Foreplay or not, you need to be well lubricated for sex to stay pleasurable.

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      • miva
        Junior Member
        • Nov 2010
        • 5

        Thank you both for your advice, I will defiantely be following it in the future

        But is there anything I can do now to make the healing process quicker or easier?

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        • kristalyn_04
          Veteran Member
          • Oct 2009
          • 2164

          No sex for a few days at least. Just take it easy and I think you will be fine. Do you and your partner engage in rough sex? If so, you might want to tone that down a bit as well.

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          • miva
            Junior Member
            • Nov 2010
            • 5

            we do sometimes, including in this case :s
            It is definitely something I will be discussing with him immediately

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            • lizzardb63
              Veteran Member
              • Aug 2010
              • 1493

              For right now you could wrap some ice up in a towel and ice it down there...take a couple ibuprofen which will help with the pain and swelling as it is an antinflammatory. Take a couple days off as everyone else has said.

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