[Mintee]

Hi! I am "non-traditional" student one of my classes is on “Sex-Busters” and Women Nurturing their Sexuality.

Have you allowed any of these things get in the way of your Sexual Satisfaction?:

* Failing to Communicate your needs
* Putting Sex on the Back Burner
* Being Stressed-out
* Feeling Frumpy
* Not Exercising
* Poor Eating Habits

Have you overcome this, or is it still a problem? Will you tell your story?

Thanks SO much!

[ItsASecret]

I'm 22. My bf and I do not have sex as much as we used to due to work schedules, and me being in school and therefore needing to spend many many hours on assignments and studying.

* Failing to Communicate your needs - sometimes, there is nothing I really *need*. I am happy with the basics of rubbing, touching etc, I do maybe not mention enough that I would like sex in different places. I will mention it but it is not a super important thing to me so I kinda forget to mention it again.
* Putting Sex on the Back Burner - I would say no. If I am studying I will have sex as a nice break and a relief from the stress. If I am sick or tired then it does get put on the back burner.
* Being Stressed-out - I work on 10+ page research papers, while needing to memorize thousands of powerpoint slides in various complex classes. Stress is an understatement
* Feeling Frumpy - Yes, sort of? I am not girly so I have no intention to doll myself up. I am not wearing sweaters and sweatpants but I am not curling my hair. wearing obscenely short skirts or caking make up on.
* Not Exercising - I never have nor will. Its just not my thing. I also have no reason to lose weight.
* Poor Eating Habits - I eat pretty good. My "fast food" if I do have it is Subway. I eat a lot of red meat though. But starting to get more into eating a lot of salads.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Have you allowed any of these things get in the way of your Sexual Satisfaction?:

* Failing to Communicate your needs -
* Putting Sex on the Back Burner
* Being Stressed-out
* Feeling Frumpy
* Not Exercising
* Poor Eating Habits

Have you overcome this, or is it still a problem? Will you tell your story?

I think personally, women have a lot to contend with. Whilst in my "opinion" don't shoot me men, however, when their day is finished, they're finished. Relax time, on the lounge perhaps a beer... But, for us, and in today's age we work too, we are still going, cooking, pets, a load of washing, always something so it stands to reason that again in "my opinion" we get stressed, tired, feel frumpy..

Communication, is the only answer... I communicate my needs when I'm tired, and when I want something, including sex AND, I am not frightened to tell what I like, want or purely use body language....

Exercise, I'm constantly moving, doing something and I walk the dog but that doesn't stop me from being stressed, I have to and do put any negative into a positive and that relieves the stress dramatically, or else, I just ask for well, sex...

I eat well and endulge when I feel like it, otherwise, healthy foods....

CW

[stressed]

Nope. It's actually my partner who's allowed all these issues get to him. And more. Nothing has ever made me not want sex. During stressful times I even think of sex to relax.