[Justlookinforanswers]

I'm 16, and had sex for the first time last night. It wasn't spontanious, i thought for a while about whether or not to have sex with him. I did for three reasons other than how much i care about him. Hes experienced and knew what he was doing, he cared about how i felt, and he was gentle with me. But im still worried... I had NO doubts BEFORE i had sex with him. But now i do.

Iv been on birthcontrol for about 5 months now. I started takeing it tho for regulation of my period, now i take it for the reason of protection. But i use the SAME thing i started out with. At first i wasnt very good with keeping up. i would miss maybe 1 or so a month. or take it at different times in the morning. But i got ALOT more carful. BEFORE haveing sex with him, i took it everyday for more than 20 days. I was told that it takes 10 for the pill to start working? And i took it everyday around 6am, and on weekends, because i woke up late around 8. We also used a condom. He was rough tho after i said i was okay, and switched positions on me a few times. Im just wondering HOW worried should i be?

[ItsASecret]

Since you never stated what you should actually be worried about I am going to assume it is about pregnancy. Unless you have no faith in the pill itself you took it correctly and therefore it should be working correctly. Any mishaps in times or dates taking the pill compromise how effective it is. If that is of no issue then you are fine.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think your other concern as you say you have a "few" is that you felt you did this for all the right reasons..

I did for three reasons other than how much i care about him. Hes experienced and knew what he was doing, he cared about how i felt, and he was gentle with me. But im still worried... I had NO doubts BEFORE i had sex with him. But now i do.

He was rough tho after i said i was okay, and switched positions on me a few times. Im just wondering HOW worried should i be?

It seems to me that you thought that he was caring and cared about how you felt, gentle etc, however, he didn't act that way once he actually achieved the goal, he was rough..

You have to follow your gut, your intuition, either he was purely excited and as he was experienced, he "forgot" and become rough, or he didn't care at all...

I think all women fear whether they still "have their man" after giving in ... whether it be the first time or the first time with that person...

Unfortunately, it will all work out for you, or the management decision to give up your virginity to this person was wrong.. It's always hard to judge sweet, so if it was wrong don't feel bad as you didn't do anything wrong, you have feelings for him...

Are you also worried because, he was rough the condom may have broken? You took the pill consistently I can't see that you would have any problems at all with pregnancy.

CW