[shoshannah]

Hi again,

Here's another question from the newbie. :-) My boyfriend has been giving me orgasms for several months now with his hands and with oral sex, but I haven't had an orgasm yet during intercourse, which we're new to. So we know that I can have orgasms, at least. What's the best way for me to have one during intercourse?

Thanks! :-)

[lizzardb63]

Clitoral stimulation during intercourse.

[shoshannah]

Clitoral stimulation during intercourse.

hehe yes I know . . . it's just that we're having trouble figuring out how. We have pretty much been using missionary and it's hard for him to do since he's having to hold himself up and there isn't a lot of room between us.

[LanaBear]

The more comfortable you get with sex and the more you connect intimately, the easier it may become.

You can try different positions. Doggy style brings me to almost immediate orgasm, same thing if my bum is raised and my legs are draped over his shoulders, the penetration just gives me unbelievable pleasure. Also, in nearly any position either you or him can play with your clit to bring you to orgasm as well and that can set off multiple orgasms at times.

Practice makes perfect. The two of you can also do some reading and learn together. WC has a great thread regarding books on sex. https://www.womens-health.com/boards...books-sex.html

[Bubba J]

I've never had a partner who could orgasm from thrusting intercourse alone. Either I needed to stimulate her clitoris, or she needed to stimulate it, or she needed to grind her clitoris against my pelvis or some such thing. I very much enjoy for my partner to rub herself while I'm inside her. I also like the spoons position where I can reach around the front and rub her to climax just as I'm about to climax as well. Can't always get the timing right, but if you work it just right it's fantastic for the guy because he can feel your contractions as he's about to come. Just fool around with different things, you'll find your way.

[MRH889]

Try this because this is the only way I have found that it will work so maybe it will work for you too Try doing missionary position with your legs up and wide open, and after he goes in, lay your legs flat on the bed (or wherever you are) and close them tightly together with his legs laying directly on top of yours. Move your body to the rhythm of his thrusting and it's highly intense because it rubs and stimulates you directly. I had never been able to achieve it during intercourse even when he would use his hands to stimulate me. Now I can achieve it without using hands at all. Now we have ours together at the same time because we each control it until we're both ready. When we're both ready he speeds up an we have the "OOOOHHHH" together. Try it!

[Texasred]

(Clitoral stimulation...): hehe yes I know . . . it's just that we're having trouble figuring out how. We have pretty much been using missionary and it's hard for him to do since he's having to hold himself up and there isn't a lot of room between us.

In addition to the other good ideas, you might try a position sometimes referred to (for reasons that escape me...) as "the cowgirl" - woman on top, straddling her partner as he is lying on his back or reclining against a stack of pillows.
This will give plenty of room for him to stimulate you manually; I find it easy to use my thumb for this, and my gf would agree enthusiastically that it works rather well. This also allows you to control the depth and angle of penetration; for your bf, it provides him with a wonderful view of you.
Have fun!
- TR

[Hopeless Dork]

In missionary if he is tight to your body - chest to chest... you can grind your clit against his body... its slower going but the build up is INTOXIFYING when the orgasm does hit. In missionary he can pull his chest away like a push up... this will give you room to put your own hand down there and to stimulate yourself while he strokes inside of you. In missionary if he pulls back even futher to his knees... again -- same thing, stimulate yourself.

When you are on top of him... again you can stimulate yourself while he watches -- great for both of you... or you can have him do the touching. In doggystyle, you can stimulate yourself or have him do it... There is almost no position other than that laying on top of each other missionary that you won't be able to at least stimulate it yourself... and for that chest to chest close one, grind against his body.