[sdgirlie82]

I recently started sleeping with a new partner and he has this "mission" to get me to ejaculate. When he first mentioned it I had only heard about it in a vague sense, mostly as something done in porn.

Now that he explained it a bit more and I've done my own research online it sounds like something every woman is capable of. It's also supposed to be pretty terrific I'd like to get to a point where I can do this for him (oh and for me too)

Has anyone had any experience with this? If you have, was it as difficult to achieve as some say? He's definitely tried to make it happen but it hasn't yet and I can tell he's a bit discouraged... is there anything I can do to help him out?

[LanaBear]

You may want to do a search. There are a ton of threads on this.

Here's just a few of them.

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/31204-female-ejaculation.html

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/22357-squirting-women.html

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/4227-female-ejaculation-without-orgasm.html

[sdgirlie82]

Thank you

[LanaBear]

You're welcome.

Just remember, for some it takes practice to be able to get your body to that point. It's an odd feeling/sensation and if you aren't used to it, you will want to tense up because you may feel like you are going to pee all over.

You need to be relaxed, as much as you can be. No need to be discouraged, some women just can't do it. Are you getting any g-spot stimulation?

[Guest]

i dunno, i've never been able to do this, best i can do is get a small trickle...

[sdgirlie82]

You're welcome.

Just remember, for some it takes practice to be able to get your body to that point. It's an odd feeling/sensation and if you aren't used to it, you will want to tense up because you may feel like you are going to pee all over.

You need to be relaxed, as much as you can be. No need to be discouraged, some women just can't do it. Are you getting any g-spot stimulation?

He definitely found the spot, at the time I didn't know what he was trying to do. The "technique" was all very different from my past experiences. Not until this last try did he explain what exactly he was trying to accomplish, aside from getting me off. I've never had a g-spot orgasm before and while I did get close, it was more due to simultaneous clitoral stimulation than just the g-spot... we also didn't have a ton of warm-up time before he dove right in. Now that I know what to expect I'm hoping we'll have better results

Thanks again for your help! *fingers crossed*

[LilahX]

Hmmm nothing like being on a mission and wanting 'better results' to create a relaxed situation lol

How about not being so goal orientated and just having a good time. You obviously know what to do achieve ejaculation so just keep doing that but without so much premedittion and focus. I have no doubt that being more relaxed will work more quickly than so much concentration on technique.

[Cheese5318]

Once you stop trying so hard, maybe it'll just happen. For some women, FE just takes them by surprise!

[clumsygirl]

no,i don't agree with you,FE is not a surprise to a woman,it is a normal Physiological phenomenon like a man ejaculaion.

the traditional view of FE is all wrong.

[WildChild]

I've gotten there with intercourse but don't seem to be able to get past a certain point with other stimulation. This is a personal goal to become mistress of my g spot. I invested in a couple of tools for the job but they just don't do it for me. When it happens I'm not an ejaculator but more of a flow woman. I have a feeling that a lot of this is a matter of letting go mentally and letting it happen. I will find what works for me. I'm always far more orgasmic with a good partner than on my own so it may take finding a man I can connect with really well sexually to get this down.